Why do women sometimes feel compelled to tell a strange guy intimate details of their lives?

Not trying to be ugly or mean, but I always feel like a slimey scumbag when that happens, like I’m prying into a ladies private life which is none of my business. Even when I’m just chilling out and having a cup of coffee and minding my own. Seems like women would get enough of presumptuous prying men without asking some almost strange guy to play Dr. Phil. I don’t get it.

Women do it with you, men (and often children) do that with me. It’s likely not gender, maybe your resting face just invites it.

Lol – maybe we need to put on a leave me the hell alone face huh?

They want to be understood but without risk. It’s an insecurity thing. Sometimes they just want to talk, and you’re convenient.

I wouldn’\t read anything into it.

People I don’t know do that with me all the time, DMV lines, grocery stores, parking lots, etc…

I think it’s because something in our demeanor or spirit feels comforting to them, so I wouldn’t take offense. There’s a lot of lonely people in the world who just want someone to listen for a minute and see them.

@elbanditoroso- Naw I just find it annoying and it happens to me alot. As said I wasn’t meaning to be ugly I just don’t know why anyone would approach someone they don’t know and talk about their private life. I mean I’ve heard some real hum dingers. Not like innocuous crap like, how bout them NY Giants, or How’s the weather pal?

@KNOWITALL – But nothing in my deameanor should cause anyone to find me comforting. I look like a cantankerous old asshole with an attitude. Hell that’s what I am. Lol.

@Nomore_lockout Not many people see themselves as others do.

And sometimes cantankerous old asshole’s give the best no BS advice or opinions. :)

Maybe I’ll have to buy a sports coat with padded elbows, grow a beard and start charging by the hour for my useless advice. LOL

In general, women are a paradox. This may be a case of “some things are better left unsaid” on the listener’s part.

@kritiper – Or, here’s a quarter, go call some one who gives a crap.

Maybe they’re desperate to have a man listen to them, and they’re pretending for a minute or two that you’re someone else.

@ Jeruba Now that is straaaange…

Well, I can’t answer that because I have never felt compelled to do that, unless they specifically ask.

What I hate is when a guy comes to me and starts telling me, “I’m the kind of guy that….” then launches into a glowing self description. They always turn out to be exactly the opposite of that.

@Nomore_lockout No thanks. I wasn’t interested in finding anyone who cared. You asked for opinions and I gave mine.

Some men do that as well in hopes that you would spill the beans on your whole life story as well. Not good unless you have dated for awhile or know them for some time .

So don’t fall into that trap.

I had a gentleman ( age 60 yrs old) tell me his whole life story while we were doing out laundry. So men do it as well.

After he finished, he asked ME if I had anything that he should know….I said NO.

Too pushy and I don’t trust that easily, for good reason.

@ kritiper I got that reply out of context it wasn’t directed at you pal. I meant to say that should be My response to women who want to tell me their life story out of the blue. My apologies

@KNOWITALL well I guess I’ll hang out a shingle, open an office, and see if any ladies will pay me to smoke a pipe, stroke my beard, and then tell them, “well, as my old pappy used to say…” Maybe they’ll forget about their issues and dismiss me as a moron. ROTFLMAO

@Nomore_lockout You wouldn’t be the first, look when you have time.

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