If you get stark raving mad about something, how long a cool off period do you need?

Suspect the world will continue to spin if I blow it off, but I promised my damn family I would try to set up a family reunion for them this summer, and since I haven’t seen my cousins in over 25 years, I don’t want to disappoint them. And I hate to break my word to family. What should I do? Humor welcome. Is I is, or is I ain’t, just a hot head?

Hard to know without knowing what the remark was. But I just block the person if they are a stranger. I don’t really go back much and re-read remarks on facebook or go back often to read new comments. I will read the comments while I’m at the computer, but once I walk away, I’m usually onto a new topic or lost interest in what I wrote. But I will block nasty people. If someone can’t comment without being halfway decent, then I just block them so they can’t see my stuff anymore or comment.
But that is usually on public subjects. For subjects that are just set to friends and family, I don’t have that issue. Only decent people make my friends and family list. And I actually have to know them.
Ah, I forgot. I did block some family members because they were being a-holes. The ones left aren’t. But I don’t stay angry. I do what I have to do to erase them and move on.

I cant block the person, they aren’t even on my friend list anyway. I think it was a response to something I said that was completely taken out of context. I can’t go into detail here, its not even an appropriate subject to address here. I can handle criticism from friends, might even learn something from it. But someone I don’t know and who doesn’t know me. hell to the no. Might have been a friend of a friend, but I don’t care if its a son of a sea cook. Don’t make assumptions about my opinions or attitude toward something if you don’t know crap about me.

You can block them. You click on their picture and it takes you to their home page and then you see the add friend tab and messenger tab and search tab. The last tab with the three dots, you can click on that and you should see block. Click on that and they can no longer see your stuff and comment on your comments. And you can’t see their comments either.

Usually I can calm down with a laugh. Make me laugh, and I’m better.

Maybe ten minutes. Something on Facebook maybe less, especially if it’s someone I don’t know well. I delete whole threads if I’m at the top of it, if someone was an asshole.

For me to hold onto anger someone needs to be horrible to me over and over again for a long time. I usually let myself get abused much longer than I should, and then eventually that person can’t affect my emotions at all. I write them off as horrible human beings and become indifferent.

@JLeslie I’m with ya on that. One hundred ten per cent ; )

Depends on context, usually a few hours.

You can’t allow randoms on the internet, power over your emotions, buddy. There is no IQ requirement unfortunately.

Probably half an hour until the acute emotional response has passed – the state that feels physically threatening, also known as “diffuse physiological arousal”.

After that, I think anger naturally resolves itself unless you’re keeping it alive by going over the events repeatedly. Sometimes, when that happens for me, I do some journaling. Sometimes I meditate. It can also help to get outside, exercise, or spend some time on a hobby.

Hope you feel better soon. I think you’re doing the right thing by reminding yourself that this guy doesn’t know you and it’s not necessary to take him seriously.

About three hours. I think it’s a physiological response in me that is difficult to interrupt because of my trauma history. It helps me to physically lock myself in a room alone (to feel safe), to take a bubble bath (to be calm), and to be physically active and/or go out in nature.

I doubt this will be of much help to you – it seems highly specific.

Five minutes.

Family member of which I no longer communicate infiltrated several of the sites that I was a longstanding member only to denigrate me publicly.

Took less than five minutes to block her and report her on all of those sites.

If it is unforgivable and from out of nowhere and was not warranted , then the decision is obvious to block, delete and prevent further comments from that person.

Common sense matters little to those that are like that.

Once faces the consequences of bad behavior and soon those that continue in that vein will wake up nd realize..one day, I hope?

Those types are low on Emotional maturity.

Good thing we are not lacking in that.

An hour.

If it’s your thread you can delete their comment.

I’m jealous of all of you who can cool down after some hours. It often takes me at least a day to cool down if the matter is that serious.

LOL @Mimishu1995 I feel ya on that. But I’m cool now, last night I was seeing red though. I have enough issues with my damn sisters, never mind some one I don’t know from Adam, so I have short fuse for smart ass strangers. PS I hope I never get you mad at me Mimi. LOL

@Mimishu1995 It takes work and practice, trust me. :) And occasionally I slip.

@Mimishu1995
Their thinking is to get you angry and if you do by responding to it, it will continue.
So delete, block and give NO responses directly to the post.
Soon by ignoring it will escalate then die down altogether.

For me, if it’s on FB or other social media, rarely will I get mad about something. I may get annoyed over a comment or someone’s attitude, but that will last about an hour.

In real life, almost never do I get “stark raving mad.” I will get mad occasionally, usually from perceived disrespect or some conflict, and how long it takes me to get over it depends on what it was and the circumstances.

The older I get, I seem to be more of an introvert and when people piss me off (in real life), it makes me feel justified that I’m happy to spend time alone, for the most part, because it’s just easier for a multitude of reasons.

I had a lady get pissy with me because I told her this armoire I’m giving away is first come first served. “But I’m disabled! My son just moved out and he needs furniture! ”
She was pissy I wouldn’t hold it for her. Then she said “It’s your loss!”
I said “I have about 30 other people interested so I’m not hurting any.”

@Dutchess_III Good for you, tell her to stuff it. That’s what I mean, its just downright aggravating for a damn T total stranger to talk smack to you. But, that’s life I suppose.