Social Question

rebbel's avatar

What are differences between online dating and real life dating?

Asked by rebbel (35553points) April 2nd, 2021

Suppose you want to get to know somebody, and you can do that either using an online dating service, or in a real life setting.
What could be significant differences?
And the pros and cons of said differences?

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

15 Answers

janbb's avatar

Pros in online dating – Bigger pool of potential daters.
Cons – It sometimes looks better on paper than it actually is.

Pros in real life meeting – Much better to assess chemistry and actual person.
Cons – 10 girls for every boy in most affinity activities

zenvelo's avatar

In real life dating, it is a lot harder to meet someone who is available and interested in dating. One has to get involved with other activities, whether it is going to bars, or a church group, or a meet-up activity group to even meet someone. And then one needs to get to know the person a bit before asking them out.

On line dating at least gets one right away to the place where others are interested in dating.

The downside of online dating is that profiles can hide a lot of negatives, from inaccurate pictures, to false information about he person. And, people filter much more on line than they would if they only met people in real life.

And, with on line dating, one still has to meet face to face to really get to know them.

si3tech's avatar

@rebbel For me there is a vast difference between seeing/hearing
someone speak and written word. I am pretty deaf and use all the cues
I can so I understand what’s being said. Facial expression, body language
and how loud or soft the voice is as well as the subtle inflections in the spoken word.

doyendroll's avatar

The logistics and clean-up in on-line dating is, in all likelihood, an advantage.

filmfann's avatar

Online dating has less disappointment.

janbb's avatar

People seem to have a misperception here of what online dating is. The goal is to meet IRL at some point: just the initial contact is online. Phone sex work is something entirely different.

rebbel's avatar

Yeah, guys, stop jerking around!
The penguin almost slipped; she could easily have broken her beak…

Thanks for all your answers.
My appreciation is limitless.

janbb's avatar

^^ Give me a call sometime, Sugar!

JLoon's avatar

Online I could meet someone like you. In real life you could meet someone like me.

Or not.

I have a feeling we’re breaking up already. It’s probably me, but I going to blame you.

Bastard.

Now I’m having virtual sex with some troll to get over you. And you’re sending dirty texts to an old girlfriend who thought you were gay.

So actually there’s really not much difference. But I’m glad you asked.

kritiper's avatar

You can’t get laid online.
Online, the other person can’t tell if you have bad breath. Or BO.
Online, if you cut a huge smelly fart, only you will know.
Online, you don’t have to ask for gas money.
Just to name a couple…

Response moderated (Spam)
Response moderated (Spam)
Response moderated
Nomore_lockout's avatar

Don’t get me started on that online crap. Never did it myself, in my single days there was no internet (yeah I’m ancient) but my daughter and a friend of mine have both had bad experiences with that crap. My daughter was going thru her change of life I suppose. and hoked up. or almost hooked up, with some online jack ass and actually divorced her hubby of 20 years over it. Fortunately, she came to her senses and her husband took her back, he was always hung up on her anyway. But, she had actually gone to visit on line ass in another state, but said he thought he was a chick magnet, and the whole time she was there, he was showing her texts and emails from other women trying to impress her. She told him adios. and came home. Lesson learned I hope. In the case of my friend. she was all head over heals with some online dude, and kept emailing me and dogging me about whether or not she should go visit the dude IRL. I told her. look, your life, your call. Go if you want, but be careful. Didn’t work out, and I got a chain of emails about how the guy was different from what he had presented, was domineering, and blah blah. So I think anyone who gets involved online is an idiot. Just my own two cents. Stick to real life dating.

Response moderated (Spam)

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.
Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther