My high school classmates just added me to a chat group. What should I do now?

I don’t know in that app how you can block the chat group but I would certainly do that. Group chats are annoying anyway with their constant dinging but if they bring up bad memories, there is no need to be part of one. If it makes you feel easier, you could congratulate the bride to be and then block the chat.

Ignore the group and its traffic. No one can force you to be an active member if you don’t want to be.

You didn’t tell us which app they’re using and added you in. Inside the group chat, there should be a way to quit it.

I like @janbb‘s idea of congratulating the bride and then quitting.

I also didn’t enjoy high school. I’ve spent many years forgetting those people and dislike it when they pop up on Facebook.

I’d wish her well and leave the chat or just leave. Your growth and mental health is far more important. On Facebook you can also mute the conversation and remain part of it, if that’s easier for you.

Take yourself off the chat.

I wouldn’t say a word to the bride-to-be or anyone else. I’d just delete myself or whatever needs to be done to get out of it. Why bother saying congrats to someone you never really knew and certainly don’t care about? And don’t feel badly – time moves on and you’re someone else, in another place now. Fuck’em.

Leave the chat group. Agree with the Dutchess

You owe them nothing. Exit and don’t look back.

You don’t care what they think of you now anyway, right? Don’t let them use your natural kindness against you.

May I point out that a lot of these answers are from a specifically American cultural perspective.

Thank you everyone! I’m using Messenger, and I have decided to just block the message. The last time I checked the notification, they were talking about making a Zoom meeting to broadcast the wedding. If I was to come and say anything, it would mean that I agree to join in the party and I would have to tune in to the Zoom call too. I just want to have as little to do with them as possible, so I will just pretend I haven’t seen that.

And thank you for helping me realize that I’m not a bad person for not wanting to join the fun.

They still haven’t reached out to me personally, just as I predicted. I wonder if they realized I haven’t “seen” any of the message.

No. You are not a bad person.

If they treated you badly in High School, just blow it off and forget about them. You don’t need that crap, and they probably haven’t changed anyway. As my Old Pappy used to say, a zebra doesn’t change its stripes.

^^^ and that has nothing to do with American or Vietnamese culture.

Do what your mind tells you, mate, and remember to always be happy. Just don’t bother about what others will think, because if you worry about that, then its your life that’s going to be spoiled.

Thanks, have a good day ahead! : )

@Dutchess_III Point taken Dutchy. I was only telling her that in my view, or my experience, arrogant jerks like she is referencing never really change. Those peeps are probably the same today, as they were in high school. I can’t stand people who ostracize or behave hatefully to other people. She has a whole lot more going for her than they probably do anyway. And youth culture is pretty much universal, attitudes don’t seem to vary that much from one culture to another.