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What's to stop an adult from rewarding themselves without accomplishing anything?

Asked by RedDeerGuy1 (24986points) May 12th, 2021

As a child your parents/teachers can dole out rewards, like gold star’s and treats for doing something good with our time. While as an adult we could eat a bag of candy whenever we want, and fill our apartment with gold star’s.

Is it a good thing not to be swayed by gold star’s anymore? Like if we really want we can order our own trophies from the store to and cover our fridge with gold star’s.

What is the next level of awards? Then what are higher to highest rewards for an adult?

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YARNLADY's avatar

Sometimes all we need is a to do list so we can feel good about crossing everything off. The only reward I need is when someone says thank you or mmm that dinner was good.

Caravanfan's avatar

Pfft. I reward myself every day.

kritiper's avatar

Nothing. But why would one??

stanleybmanly's avatar

It’s called self discipline, and widely though erroneously assumed the definining trait of adulthood.

elbanditoroso's avatar

@RedDeerGuy1 what is your case against it?

If I do something that I feel good about, why shouldn’t I reward myself in some appropriate way?

anniereborn's avatar

I feel I need a reward for getting through every day, Adulting is hard.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

@elbanditoroso Diabetes from all those sweets. Also cavities. Also a sugar crash.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

One of my childhood dreams was to have extra juice boxes. I have two Koolade jammers a day on a whim, with no rationing. Maybe even three. They have 100% vitamin C each.

robbie2499's avatar

You bring up a very excellent point. THIS statement in your post is, in my own opinion, the heart of the matter and the start of the decline of society:
“As a child your parents/teachers can dole out rewards, like gold star’s and treats for doing something good with our time. ”
Sadly, kids now don’t need nor even want a reward system. They want what they want instantly. No more “working for it”. Adults, again, my opinion only, are leaning towards the same thinking. As you very well stated, “What’s to stop an adult from rewarding themselves without accomplishing anything?” There is nothing to stop adults. With that said, it is/should be a matter of human integrity along with (hopefully) a strong set of morals.

zenvelo's avatar

There is nothing stopping an adult from “rewarding themselves without accomplishing anything.” People do it all the time. It runs the gamut from having a beer to masturbating.

But it isn’t very fulfilling. Fulfillment comes from the realization of accomplishing something, whether it is cleaning the house, shoveling snow off the driveway, making a sale or closing a deal.

When one is self actualized, accomplishing something is often reward in and of itself, because one can look back and say to oneself, “I did this…”

LostInParadise's avatar

The journey is the destination

stanleybmanly's avatar

If that’s the case, what’s the function of the potholes and obstacles? So many risks.

zenvelo's avatar

@stanleybmanly Overcoming the potholes and obstacles is where one finds self satisfaction and fulfillment.

stanleybmanly's avatar

I like that answer. It’s all a test.

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