What would you do if you were at work as a nurse and a patient?

Help him, and call the police. (Assuming he was never caught.)

Holy crap! I would do what your job requires but then press charges against the bastard!

I would like to think that I could keep my composure enough to tell him I would send someone else in to help him, but I just don’t know if I could. I would be trembling and barely able to speak, there is no doubt about that. In all honesty I would probably get away from him as quickly as possible and find someone else to help him.

Has the man be prosecuted for the crime? If not, I would call the police as soon as I left the room.

I also want to say that if this happened to you, I am very sorry for you, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

If I assume that I would handle the situation the way I think I would at the time of the rape and after, then I would do my job, and call the police.

I would think that the first step would be to have someone else help him because of a conflict of interests that would put the hospital and your case at risk.

Arrange for another nurse to take over. You are too biased to give proper treatment. You didn’t mention if this guy has been arrested for the crime in the past or not, so I can’t say whether or not to call the cops.

Special Medicine? A Midnight Visit? Cut his balls off? All the above?

Then the other part of me would hold him for allengreen.

Honestly, what I’d like to think I’d do would probably be very different from what I actually did.

Wow, I guess now I understand why you answered this question so strongly. I think it would be a good idea to talk to a victim advocate/counsellor.

Guys and girls….this happened 20 years ago, I pressed charges, and I am fine….just a little blown away that I would ever see him again….He is strung out, and he didn’t know who I was. I went ahead and took care of him.

Good for you. That says a lot about who you are. That must have been terribly difficult.

*** from scamp***Wow, I guess now I understand why you answered this question so strongly. I think it would be a good idea to talk to a victim advocate/counsellor.

thanks for the empathy.

You did right XrayGirl. Good for you. I can’t even begin to imagine what that was like.

seeing him after all these years is what freaked me out the most…...THE rape happened in CALIFORNIA and I treated him in GEORGIA!!!!!! whoa!!!! We can’t take for granted that we will NEVER ever see a certain person again…...and yes, I am in counselling and have been off and on for years.f

@XrayGirl You’re welcome. I scored a 48, which is average. how ‘bout you?

@scamp: 52 :)

@augustlan You’re my hero!!

I would like to say I’d do what Lorena Bobbitt did, but it wouldn’t be worth my freedom.

I don’t know if I would have cared for this guy, like you did. Nothing, I despise more is a rapist and/or child molester. I don’t believe I would have done what you did. I think I would immediately have called someone to take over for me and then leave. I just don’t think, I would ever be able to touch this guy. Makes my skin crawl just thinking about it and it has never happened to me.
Sorry, this ever happened to you, no one deserves that…
I am very happy to know you are dealing with it well. My heart goes out to you. Your a very strong person!

@scamp….I scored 51. .. . . . average for a woman. better than below average, I guess..thanks, that was fun. ;)

Med error?

@XrayGirl You’re welcome again. I just wanted to let you know how brave I think you are for sharing something so personal on the internet. Especially since you have only been here a few days. That’s pretty gutsy girl!!

@scamp 57. Interesting

Xraygirl. Despite my score, I think you handled it better than I would have…..I think I would have had to excuse myself and ask someone else to take care of the patient.

@ scamp…..thanks, but a huge part of my healing comes from talking about it without shame, guilt or embarrassment. People have a tendency to shun someone who is willing to talk about such a crisis, but I find it freeing and cleansing. what a great group of support here…i never would have guessed….very cool, indeed. you guys are fantastic. ;)

Well, you know how the internet can be. In some places if you share so much personal information people would accuse you of looking for attention. But it’s not like that here. Fluther is warm and wonderful! Just wait until you really get to know the people here, and you will see exactly what I mean!! :D

Xray: California to Georgia? That’s crazy. Maybe you were meant to see him again to be able to prove to yourself after that excruciating ordeal what kind of character and strength that you have? Has this experience made it harder or easier (or just more complicated?) to deal with your previous experience?

Scamp: Does that make fluther an onomatopoeia? ‘Cause it sure sounds warm and wonderful!

@Nimis: I agree…..the California to Georgia thing is TOOOOOO WEIRD…and it has made dealing with my previous experience easier. great post!!

@Nimis it does sound like that, doesn’t it?

Let’s all say it together now…. Fluuuuhhh ther. Ahh, that was relaxing, wasn’t it?

Xray: I’m glad to hear that. Hope it keeps getting easier. =)

Scamp: Fluuuhhhhhtherrrrrererrrrrrrrerrrrererrrr…..

Apparently I have Asperger Syndrome.

I got 59. Tell me all about it Syz, I’m here to listen.

Actually, I’m a little concerned. I scored a 22.

@xraygirl I’d probably fantasize about all of the retribution that I’d like to extract, but I suspect that in reality, I’d freeze up and just do my job. I usually save my breakdowns for later, when I’m by myself. And I’d probably hate myself for not having done anything.

Oh, jeez, I took it again, making every effort to be honest, and scored 16.

@syz: It’s ok. I scored a 23. I’m comfortable with every aspect about myself that I answered on that though, so I wouldn’t be concerned.

@syz and girlofscience – not that you need it or asked for it but I was thinking about your scores and the test.

The way I see it. The test says wether you are more or less inclined to be empathetic. Not Empathetic or Not Empathetic.

Different situations or even different stages of the same situation call for different levels of empathy as well as a stern straight forward attitude.

You all may not have scored high on the test, but anyone who gives you all guff doesn’t get it.

Just my thoughts

I got 26 :S i gotta give this more attention.

55 surprised it wasn’t higher. Maybe I’m not as far gone as I thought.

I know someone with Aspergers. I’m going to have him take the quiz and see how he stacks up. Glad you all are taking interest in this. It’s kinda fun, isn’t it?

I’m confused. What are we doing?

@loser see scamp’s post above w/ a link labeled “scoreed”. It links to a question testing assessing empathy

Oh, thanks! I wanted to play too…

Okay, I’m a 45!

Wow loser, you’re very close to me! Only a 3 point difference.

We rock!!!

Yes we do!

I have no empathy for anyone under 48! :-)

It’d probably depend on how satisfied I was with the outcome of the legal action, whether I was complete with it, and my current read of who he was being and whether I felt like he was still a threat to me or others. So, anything from treating him with full acceptance and kindness, to taking responsibility to protect myself and others from the threat.

Interesting empathy questionnaire. Like most or all such things, a little biased itself in its assumptions and meanings. It rated my answers a 59.

Wow…kudos to you for dealing with the situation you were faced with. I know I would’ve freaked out. It must have brought back everything you went thru…

I scored a 64, btw. Surprised even myself!