Someone please explain this behavior to me?

You don’t know that it’s really a woman. Just because there is a pic doesn’t mean that is the real person behind the persona.

This ^^

It’s probably a dude in Nigeria.

I get friend requests all the time from guys that are about my age, always handsome (not model handsome, but decently good looking) and the profile information, which many people don’t bother to fill out, will always specify “single” or “widowed.” My guess is that these photos are stolen, hacked, used without permission, whatever, and the profiles are made up, totally fake, to scam people. I always, delete the friend request and then immediately block the person, so they can’t see me any more or try to communicate.

I did get a friend request a few years ago from a guy who was very handsome, about 60, with a military dress uniform on, full of medals. He was, at the time, the highest ranking US officer serving in Afghanistan – the head honcho, in charge of the US forces. His name was General John W. Nicholson Jr. He was a 4 star General. You can google him. Anyway, he had two mutual friends, very legitimate real life mutual friends so I accepted his friend request. He started chatting with me, and it was the end of my work day and I had nothing to do, so I was chatting with him and googling him at the same time. He went to West Point, his father went to West Point, very impressive, very handsome, great body for an older guy, all that. Google told me he was married. I asked him he denied it. Long story short, some of the phrases he used were not phrases I’d expect from someone high up in the military, for example he told me he was hanging out or something that didn’t sound like someone who’s very busy and authoritative. When I left work, wondering why this guy who is so high up in the military is chatting with me, I got suspicious, went home, looked him up with the words “scam profile” and found out that that name (with photo to match of course since it was a real person) was one of the most scammed profiles. If you go to the FB search bar and put in his name, there are at least 5 people with that name, and his real photo – obviously all scams. I unfriended immediately, blocked, and learned a lesson. Probably some guy living in a foreign country, who would have started crying poverty and seeing if I was receptive to sending him money eventually. Lesson learned. Trust nobody unless you actually know them (except me of course hahaha).

@jca2 LOL point taken. Yeah I never accept either. Just irks me they allow this crap to go on, then suspend accounts for x amount of days over petty bs. But it is what it is I guess.

Nigerian Prince wants to send you money !

LOL

@Tropical_Willie: Will the real General John W. Nicholson please stand up? hahahaha

https://www.generalnicholson.com/

I get tons of friend requests from handsome guys :D

Maybe it’s because your profile picture is a man :P

You’re irresistable – Deal with it ;p

But as for the rest of your question, everyone online who identifes herself as female faces risk of innappropriate contact. No matter who we friend, how we look, or what we post.

It’s just life on the web.

Friend requests are generated automatically when your FB friend has you listed as a friend too.
I never accept friend requests unless I know them in real life or my real life friend tells me about them.
I read a book for a budding publisher of his book once as my friend sent in the request to do him a favor.
I read it and gave my comments and I thought that was over until he started to comment on my Fb posts and became annoying. I do not answer him and I “unfriended” him because of it.
Too pushy, regalrless of his looks or him living in a tropical holiday place.
He later asked if I would read his next book and comment on it to place that in his book ( fan).
I refused and told him once was enough and didn’t want a friendship.
So far he has listened and stopped.

By the way I aslo receive freind requests from all over the world, but consider them scammers, so I refuse and if need be block them as well.
They had foreign names, that was a clue.

Two considerations:

1. Your FB profile is set to open to ALL vs. open to ONLY FRIENDS or FRIENDS OF FRIENDS. This function controls who can see your profile.

2. Your FB profile is set to single/interested in women. This can be changed. Does anyone really need to know this?

Change either or both, and it should reduce or stop those friend requests.

It’s set to married, and I believe my (old) age is listed, as well as plethora of pics of my grand kids and my GREAT grand son. That should be a hint that I’m not there to chase little chickies. Makes me feel like a perv, and I haven’t done anything immoral. As far as the “open” thing. thank you. I’ll have to go back in and check that. @Pied_Pfeffer Didn’t have a clue what I was doing when I set this up, had to have help from some of my friends to guide me through it. But it wasn’t their job to hold my hand and walk me through the entire set up. TY for that tip!

@jca2 I’m General Jack. D. Ripper, Strategic Air Command. Just to let you know, the Covid vax is all a plot to steal our precious bodily fluids. (“Dr. Strangelove, or How I learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Bomb”)

They aren’t looking for you to “chase” chicks. They’re looking for money.

Good luck with that too. I’m so broke I cant pay attention. @Dutchess_III

They just set up new profiles with your public photo’s and try to scam your friend list. Just report the profile and fb will shut it down.

I have made some complaints, they go unheeded. But I make a comment on one of their damn stupid vids, unrelated to anything sexual in any way, and they fall all over themselves to restrict my account for 3 days. A holes.

@Nomore_lockout – I realize your negative Facebook experiences are probably more serious than my answer.

But the only advice I can give that I’m reasonably sure of is to just cancel/delete your account and drop Fb altogether. That may sound extreme, especially if you’re personally invested in your online relationships or rely on Fb for marketing or other business. But I killed my acount over two years ago and haven’t regretted it. Fb is invasive, dishonest, manipulative, and basically anti-human. You may be better off without all their BS.

@Nomore_lockout Thank you for the addl. information. Yeah, having a FB profile set to “everyone can see it” can allow anyone with a FB acct. to see yours.

Mine is set to “only friends”, meaning FB friends. Any FB member can search for my name and see that I have a profile; they can even send a message or friend request. It just doesn’t happen nearly as often since I changed my profile from open to friends only.

FB is important to me as it is a way to stay in touch with family and friends who live far away. I have no interest in dealing with the other rubbish. Learn about Block, Hide posts, and one or two other simple features, and you are good to go.

Find your settings (top left) and look through them.

@Dutchess_III and @Pied_Pfeffer Thanks for the tips, and will do. @JLoon I enjoy FB as a rule, and I won’t blow it off because I have some good friends on there that I really can’t interact with otherwise. As well as getting back in touch with some cousins I haven’t seen since I was a tyke. I just have an issue with the stupid suspensions, while other people get away with murder. My sis gets on there, and rants about Repubs and the far right all the time, and she can be vitriolic, to say the least. Nothing happens. I make one comment on a vid, I get banned for three days. Yo, Face Book! You are anus cavities! Up your nose with a rubber hose! I feel so much better now…

* right. * top right. Your settings are top right. I am so directionally dysfunctional it’s not even funny.

What happens is somebody flags your post. I was having a disagreement about cropping and docking dog’s ears and tails. I didn’t cuss or call anyone names.
This one chick called me a “troll” 4 times, as well as other names…and boom. I was banned for 24 hours for “bullying.”

@Dutchess_III See, it’s a pain in the butt ain’t it? I remember when you told me about that. I should be able to get back on tonight, unless they get butt hurt about another comment I make. While my Sis works up a howling mob about anti abortionists and anti vaxers, and they give her a damn medal.

Unfollow your sis. You’ll still show as friends but you won’t see her posts.
Go to her account and click on “see your friendship.”

Good idea. I agree with her as a rule, but she is way to radical for my taste. As bad for the Left as the right wingers she rants about.

You can still see what she posts but you have to go to her page to see it.

Cool. Thanks for the guidance. You are too kind. Could have told me 6 months ago to go F my retard butt. Lol. But I’m learning, and I do value your help.. Just have to watch my Ps and Qs. As well as my mouth. Which was always a problem for me. @Dutchess_III : )

I DID tell you 6 months ago!

Well as said, I’ll have to watch myself from now on. Didn’t know they were so ferocious over there. With some of us.