Should the child be given back to birth parents?

Asked by Samantha4One (1329

) January 5th, 2022

Hello,

Last night I watched a drama and this question popped up..
Please bear with me.

We have a couple A and B (not married), they live abroad, B tells A that she’s pregnant. So they come back to their home country and decide to have the child. Since they’re not financially strong, they don’t marry and since they’re not married the child will be illegal and will not registered by law (according to their country).

They didn’t want to abort it so B gives birth to the child and goes back abroad with A to study, leaving the newborn child (C from now on) in his uncle’s (U) (A’s brother) care.

U never wanted this responsibility as he’s very busy with his job and he lives alone. So he hires a babysitter(not full time).

So long story short, U and the babysitter takes care of the C and falls in love with each other. C also starts recognizes them as mom and dad, even though U and the babysitter clearly mentioned they’re not his parents.

The real parents do video chat with the C on his birthday only, sometimes forgets they even have a son.

Years pass and the C is now 7 years old. The A & B comes back from abroad and want to take back C, but C doesn’t know what to do…

U and babysitter (now wife of U) has strong attachment to C and they don’t want to separate from C, but knowing he’s not their real son, they can’t do anything..

C knows A & B are his real parents, but he has always seen U and babysitter as his real parents until now.

What should happen in this situation?
Sorry for the long one… But I just had to ask this…

Regards!

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If I was the child I wouldn’t want to be with the parents who abandoned me and only called me on my birthday. It shows that they don’t care for me as much as they think they do. I would rather be with people who are confirmed to care for me.

I am a bit confused though, U didn’t want responsibility so he hired a babysitter to take care of the child. And then suddenly he formed a relationship with the child?

Mimishu1995 (23796

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Let C with U and BS.
A and B F’d up.

rebbel (35553

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They abandoned the C. If I was U and BS I’d file for custody.

Dutchess_III (47069

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Kid should stay with the foster parents.
Reminds me of the real life story of Nelson Müller.
Came to Germany as a baby, his Ghanaian parents gave him to a foster family when he was 4, then left him there when they moved. They wanted him back when he was 7, but he decided to stay with his foster parents.
A week before his 34th birthday, he was finally adopted by his foster parents.

ragingloli (52231

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Uncle snd babysitter married now should go to a Lawyer and get full custody and adopt the child.
Any Psychologist would wnat that shild to live and have the Y and his wife as mother and father in legal terms permanently, since the child had only known them for most of its life.
Any Court of law would dismiss the original parents based on the information presented and what the child’s best interests are.

Inspired_2write (14486

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I think the problem is, no real adults are involved.

Find yourself a wolf pack (W) C. They’ll probably take better care of you.

JLoon (8583

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@JLoon Yes!! :)

KNOWITALL (29885

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Thanks a lot for the answers… I really appreciate it..

@Mimishu1995 U is single guy in his 20’s, he didn’t want responsibility of taking care of the C, since the C at that time was newborn. So he hired a BS (babysitter) from an agency… He liked the BS first then formed a connection with the C as well.

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