(NSFW) Why does my boyfriend always slap my butt?

He’s into a little kinky stuff, or wants to be, and wants you to play along with him.

It suits some people very comfortably. Others, it’s just not their thing.

If you find it annoying then tell him to stop.

Careful, some men are obsessed with the butt which can be a good or bad thing, depending on your comfort level.

Just tell him to stop.

Sit him down in a quiet moment, and tell him how it makes you feel, and why you don’t like it, and to please stop.

If he continues to slap your butt after that, you know he doesn’t respect you, which means he’s not a good match for you.

He likes your butt. Be thankful he doesn’t slap guy’s asses. But you can tell him to stop.

How old are you?

Some might find it fun and playful, some might find it offensive. If you don’t like it, let him know.

Does it hurt or is it playful? Either way, if you don’t like it, it’s disrespectful and needs to stop.

If you look at it from a helicopter perspective, you can, is my opinion, slap him on the face.
Comes down to the same; unexpected slapping of human flesh.
Try it.

^Absolutely!

There are laws in place If it is unwanted physical contact.

If you tell him to stop and he keeps doing it, start reaching back and quicky grabbing his genitals every time he does it. Men don’t like being unexpectedly grabbed in the privates any more than women do. When he figures out that’s going to happen every time, he’ll stop.

@Dutchess_III I don’t agree with that. OP already stated they were confused. I don’t think that would would be prudent.

@Dutchess_III That might work but it could backfire, and she’d be in a worse situation.

^^^ These guys are probably right.
If he doesn’t stop when you ask him to, kick him out.

what he is doing is abusive physically. Why would you put up with it?

I’m sure he thinks she likes it. I’m sure he thinks it’s a compliment.

I expect it has a sexual context for him.

I understand wanting to touch a lover, but spanking is a kink I’ve never related to, but some people are into it.

What I have never got, is why sports people pat each other on the butt. I’ve always found that weird and would warn people off doing that to me in a sports context.

What a predicament!

Ask one of the other nuns in your convent.

Did you think people would believe any of that?

Talk to your mom about the butt slapping. She’ll know what to do.

I don’t get the “nun” comment @JLoon. Are you suggesting that if a girl or woman doesn’t appreciate getting her butt slapped (or pinched, or her crotch grabbed or her her boobs grabbed) she must be a prude?

@Dutchess_III – I’m suggesting we’re being trolled.

Ok.

“He told me that he wants to spank me with a paddle.”

If it were me on that receiving end I would slap him accorss the face and ask him it HE likes that?
Some men ( and probably women) need to respect their partners and if not sure of how they would take it, SHOULD ask instead of surprising them.
It was in effect a test to see how much that women will tolerate disrecpectable behaviour…shit it down fast or dump him I say.

Me thinks that many are watching too much porn or movies that display that and do not realize that its a Actor in a MOVIE not real life.
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Warning:
I would be very wary of this behaviour turning into more rough play then to abuse.

In a WIn House for abused women this was stated as fact as to why there a relationship turned in to abuse after that seemingly innocent game?

@JLoon And you are right!

Maybe your boyfriend should spend a little time at a dungeon, where consenting adults like to play like that (and agree to safety limits). Find out if that’s what he really wants—and let him find a partner there—or just get it out of his system and move on.

It’s not generally a one-person game.

The OP hasn’t returned yet. I hope she does.