Why do I throw up when taking shots?

Maybe your body is telling you something. Don’t do shots. Even better stop drinking.

Oh okay. If that’s the case I’m just gonna ignore it.

Maybe it’s just jack Daniels. Drank some Crown Royal just fine.

Alcohol poisoning !

Stop drinking and get help !

It’s my first drink of the night if you read my post!!!! Can’t be alcohol poisoning I have drank waaaay more than that in a night and was fine!!!!!!!

Yes your body is telling to stop . . . don’t stop and you could be be dead.

I’ve seen it when I worked in a psychiatric hospital. Dead ex-patients !

Okay, can’t see how it’s poison when it’s my first drink

See your therapist !

I don’t have a fucking therapist! I love drinking! Not a problem with that! You people assume I’m some weak person!!! I AM NOT WEAK!!!

Don’t drink until you die !

I’ll do what I want.

YUP !

Thanks!

Technically, alcohol is a solution…
It’s also a poison.

Your body is giving you a loud siren warning that you are injuring yourself. Please stop drinking and taking drugs. You need help.

You guys are clearly not understanding my post. I am not drinking prior to the shots. they are my first drink of the night lol

I can drink just fine after the shots… so try again. and stop with the “alcohol poisoning” bullshit. It can’t be alcohol poisoning.

@SergentQueen I understand perfectly. You are an alcoholic. You don’t have to be drinking beforehand to injure yourself with one shot. You don’t have to slam your hand in a doorway multiple times before you realize that you are injuring yourself.

I have lost 2 women friends to alcoholism, and I have another female friend who currently has cirrhosis of the liver, due to alcoholism and is not expected to live unless she gets a liver transplant, but she has to be clean and sober for 6 months to be put on the transplant list. She still drinks and is in deep denial.

All 3 of these women denied having a drinking problem. Two of them have died, and I’m extremely worried about my friend who is still alive, and still injuring herself. She is a childhood friend. You may not be able to understand what it is like to have people that you know and love killing themselves, and denying it the entire time. It’s devastating to those of us who have begged and pleaded for them to get help. And it’s like a slap in the face and a big “fuck you” to see them blow off getting help and scream that they don’t have a problem.

That is kind of what is happening here.

I’m not an alcoholic

I’m only 21 lol

Your age is no guarantee of anything. Some people are already in recovery in AA before they’re old enough to drink legally.

I’ve attended open AA meetings on account of a loved one. I have heard a speaker say he was an alcoholic by the age of 9, and another that she was hooked by the age of 12. Alcohol is “cunning, baffling, and powerful,” as they say, and denial doesn’t fix it.

But no one can get past your denial. Until you want to make a change, you won’t. I hope that you’ll find what you need when you’re ready. I worry about you, girl.

I am confused as to why anyone worries for me.

Do a little lurking via Zoom and just listen to people tell their stories at an AA meeting. You don’t have to speak. Just listen.

If you’re not an alcoholic or addict, you won’t relate to people who are. If you’re not an alcoholic, you won’t be afraid to do this,

SQ.
Hypothetically…

You are on a long dock with deep water around.
You notice a stranger fall into the water.
You are the only other person as far as you can see.
You notice a life ring nearby.
A quick analysis of the situation is, the person in the water seems to be ok. However…
It’s a long swim to the closest land.
In this scenario, you have two options.
A. Leave the person in the water to make the swim.
B. Throw them the life ring, to give them better odds of getting to shore…

Now.
What would do?

Would you need to consider motivation, before you act?

Back to reality.

Or. Do you enjoy alcohol, because it makes reality more tolerable?

I personally enjoyed my years drinking. For the most part.

Now. I’m understanding that, eventually, my drinking caught up to me. It became a good thing to help me cope with my reality.

I don’t want to come across as preaching.
Enjoy your life. Just be aware that you are playing with fire.

I’m not suggesting that you have a problem. But. It could become a problem.

Peace and love…

@MrGrimm888 I was waiting for you to craft a response and I wasn’t disappointed. Wise words from someone who actually face death many times.

@SergeantQueen You think you can’t be an alcoholic at 21? You are wrong. A close friend of mine was in rehab the first time at age 18.

Did you here the news story about the pilot who was still drunk in the morning from the night before? You probably have an alcohol level all day long. First drink of the night means nothing if you always have a level.

We worry about you because we care about you. We have suggested before to at least try an AA meeting. Why not try? I know it’s probably scary to you to think about giving up alcohol, but you are making yourself sick in more ways than one. They probably have zoom AA if you can’t make it to an in-person meeting. You might not be safe to drive to a meeting.

Thanks Mimi. Let’s just stay focused on our friend, SQ.

@JLeslie . AA, isn’t for everyone. Each person has different, often varied ways of finding the best method(s) which will help them find traction.
Perhaps if we all can come up with as many sources of potential guidance, SQ can find the right path she’s looking for…
We do indeed worry, because we care.

Sound out Fluther. Any suggestions, could be helpful.

@MrGrimm888 I know AA isn’t for everyone, but it’s extremely accessible and worth a try. I found this link to online meetings, but searching seemed a little like a pain if someone wants an afternoon or evening meeting. I think it’s listed by time of day so 7am has multiple meetings. I didn’t find a simple list. She can be completely anonymous if she wants and change her name if she wants and lurk in a few meetings to see if one fits her.

There are probably AA meetings in her city or nearby city on zoom and easier to search on the web if she googles. I don’t know where she lives.

You gag and vomit from drinking alcohol because alcohol is a powerful drug. Your body is rejecting it. Listen to your body and lay off the alcohol and other recreational drugs.

You had trauma (which you talked about here on Fluther) and now you’re self medicating by drinking multiple drinks every night. This is an addiction and I’m willing to bet you couldn’t stop now by yourself. It’s going in a bad direction, such a young age, and definitely not good for you physically or mentally. Also not good for you financially, job-wise, and in so many ways.

Your body is telling you something. Listen to it.

Oops, forgot to post the link, but like I said I would search for local zoom groups. https://aa-intergroup.org/meetings

It’d a gag reflex. Lot’s of people have the same reaction to hard liquor when they first try it. It usually goes away as you drink more (I’m not suggesting that you do). Whether or not you’re an alcoholic is a completely different issue.

Drew Barrymore underwent drug and alcoholism rehab at age 13.

If you have to, start with beer or lager, you likely can stop throwing up (which is horrible for your teeth and can flip your stomach.)

Maybe its triggered by childhood memory? It’s an automatic reaction to the taste and knowledge of what you are doing. I’m not saying you hate the taste or you hate being drunk or hangovers, but on some level, your body remembers something and reacts.

It’s just a guess but maybe it reminds you of something bad? This doesn’t have to be a bad experience. It could just be a bad association.

Maybe because when I try to get drunk off straight hard liquor alone I tend to have panic attacks. But if I am already buzzed off a fruity mixed drink it’s fine.

This sounds like a good (free and confidential) resource. It is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration:

https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline

They can help her find assistance in her area, and provide guidance for getting help with or without insurance, and can also help the entire family.

Okay, can’t see how it’s poison when it’s my first drink
It may be your first drink of the day, but iI’s “not” your first drink. You haven’t stopped drinking since last night
I’m not an alcoholic. I’m only 21 lol.
YOU “ARE” AN ALCOHOLIC AND YOUR AGE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT but make it sadder that you’re willing to kill yourself for a fucking glass of booze and I fail to see anything funny about that
Oh okay. If that’s the case I’m just gonna ignore it.
Ignoring your body is not wise—payback is a bitch
You people assume I’m some weak person!!! I AM NOT WEAK
NOBODY HERE SAID YOU WERE WEAK. You’re just another alcoholic in denial. Sounds like “you” see you as weak

Pay attention—nobody asked a Q “Anybody feel like bashing SQ today?” YOU ASKED THE Q and I believe that you honestly know the true answer—just not brave enough to face the truth

Mr G, I’m sorry but “both” my parents were murdered by a drunk driver and I don’t feel a lot of compassion for any alcoholic—as long as they breathe, they have a “choice”

^I’m not asking for your, or any one’s compassion.

And I’m not asking for compassion either. I don’t fucking need it- you are a random on the internet. I asked a basic question, and as always it turns into you all becoming armchair psychiatrists and diagnosing me with weird shit- alcoholism, autism. Wtf.

I get it. I drink too much. Yes I have a choice, and every night I make that choice to drink because I like it.

And “I know the answer but not brave enough to accept it” I wasn’t asking if I was an alcoholic, I wasn’t asking if what I was doing was healthy, I was asking why I throw up after drinking shots.

You act as if I don’t already know what I am doing to myself. You seriously act as if I truly care at this point either. I figured there was some reason why hard liquor makes people throw up, so I asked.

I just don’t understand, do you guys assume I am constantly looking for sympathy? Because even the slightest mention of something that is going on with me- even if it’s just an anecdote- is met with comments and messages about how I need therapy. I recognize I’m fucked up. But I am not constantly looking for advice. I have stopped trying to ask mental health questions or anything even remotely about it because everyone thinks they know me.

I didn’t think this would turn into all this bullshit. It was a very simple question. Take the “I” out of it, and answer it as if it were worded like this: “Why would someone throw up after taking shots?”. Y’all wouldn’t have called me an alcoholic then. You would have actually answered the question without getting personal.

And yeah, I did ask the question. Im not bitching that y’all wanted to give unneeded advice- although I’m annoyed that it turned into this whole “let’s give her as many suggestions as we can in an effort to help someone who doesn’t really want help”.

I will stop asking questions about myself from now on, and just ask them in the third person.

I don’t hate any of you guys, I just want y’all to chill with the constant “seek therapy”, “you have issues”. I got it, I know it, thanks.

Thank you all for the advice. I appreciate that you care enough to provide resources. Clearly I’m not ready for help. I have saved the links on my laptop. Maybe one day they will come in handy.

Here’s a link that helped me: https://lifering.org/ Peace. :o)

@SergeantQueen One thing about fluther we’ve all learned is that it’s not a safe space, it’s more like extended family. But years from now most of us will also be here cheering your successes, too.
Asking in third person is a great idea, good luck!

We aren’t some random group on the internet. Some of us have been here for ten years together and have been through good times and bad.

I didn’t drink any alcohol last night. Mainly because the thought of drinking made me want to throw up. I just drank a lot of water instead. I hope I can try it again tonight, but I’m not as sick.

@SergeantQueen Yay you!!

Water and Pedialyte helped a lot

@SergeantQueen Makes sense as alcohol can easily dehydrate you, like caffeine. It’s a diuretic.

@SergeantQueen Really glad to hear this update. We are all rooting for you.

I had like 4 shots and 2 cans of whiskey tonight and I barely feel buzzed. This is annoying and stupid. I just want to feel something other than bad and I can’t

I graduated with honors in High School and College. I was the president of a club in college. I helped lead fundraisers for domestic violence shelters, and for the victim support dog. I had all these goals and all my teachers told me, “you are exactly what we need in this profession.”

Now I just drink and cry and I’m going to work this gas station job forever. I have no motivation and I do not care about myself.

Life is fun.

I just want my ex back. I want to be normal again. I want to feel safe again. That’s all. Why did he have to hurt me so badly? What did I do wrong?

@SergeantQueen So you’re going to let one boy ruin your life? And stop you from helping others? And ruin your career?
We’ve all been through similar situations, you can’t hand all your power to someone else. I assure you he’s not worth your self-respect and self-love.

@SergeantQueen I completely understand the pain and anxiety from a break-up. I was 21 when I broke up with my almost 6 year boyfriend.

I spent four months barely able to function, and then it was getting a little better. After six months I was much better and finally able to eat normally and go out and have some fun again. Most of the time I was better, but for two years I would have waves or bouts of sadness and pain when something would trigger my feelings.

I talked to a few women who went through divorces and they were the most help. My dad didn’t understand at all why I was so upset about breaking up with a cheater and liar. He thought I should just get better fast. He also had a hard time watching me so upset, so he kept trying to tell me I should feel better fast.

The women; they told me it took about six months not to feel wrecked every day. Not to be obsessing about it every day. They gave me realistic timelines. Actually, a young male doctor who I went to see, because one symptom I had was I could barely eat and I was nauseous and food would go right through me and also I would start shaking from nothing, that doctor told me about his break-up and that for him he couldn’t sleep at night for several months. I thought that was nice that he shared that with me.

What I started to understand was that my reaction was shared by many people and that eventually it will get better.

Alcoholism tends to pause the person in the mental state they are in. For instance, people who become alcoholics in their teens never get through adolescence if they don’t eventually work on their addiction problem. Their psychological growth sort of halts. They might become adults, work, pay bills, but emotionally they get stuck in this crappy emotional adolescent phase.

If you started drinking heavily after this break up in the midst of your grief and mourning, you are working against yourself to actually feel better. I understand wanting to get some relief from the pain, anxiety, and depression. I took some medication for a few weeks to feel calmer and be able to eat, but you are drowning your sorrows, that’s not going to help, you are creating other problems.

Two years after my break-up I dated a guy who was head over heals for me and wanted to marry me, but he was not the right guy and I was so nervous to break up and feel that pain again, but when I finally did break up I felt relief. I was shocked. Then I met my husband and I’ve been with him 31 years.

You just have to go through the pain, and get some help, and then you will be on the other side of it.

What @JLeslie said is absolutely correct: Alcoholism tends to pause the person in the mental state they are in. For instance, people who become alcoholics in their teens never get through adolescence if they don’t eventually work on their addiction problem. Their psychological growth sort of halts. They might become adults, work, pay bills, but emotionally they get stuck in this crappy emotional adolescent phase.

and: You just have to go through the pain, and get some help, and then you will be on the other side of it.

Until you face the feelings, all of your reactions, especially with regards to men, will be through the eyes of an adolescent in pain. In my case, I was able to function like an adult, but my juvenile reactions to painful stimuli were way out of proportion to the event. I embarrassed myself many times, mostly on the job, but also in relationships. I simply wasn’t emotionally mature and acted out like a 15 year old, which is the age at which I was ‘stuck’.

If you want to stop drinking, and I know you have mixed feelings about that, which is common, then the sooner you do it the easier it will be. The longer you wait, thinking, “I’ll do it tomorrow, I just can’t today”, the more dependent on it you’ll be, and the more agonizing it will be to stop.