Is it weird to fly home to visit my parents without my long-term partner?

Your reasoning sounds very clear and sound to me. I think that’s a very reasonable boundary to draw. Try to explain it to your partner without mentioning any of the negatives of their behavior on the visits but only why you want alone time with them. Your partner may be hurt but you are entitled to your needs.

I don’t see it as mean. Assuming that your parents are about the same age as hers, you could use the same excuse as she did “They’re old and could die soon. & since I haven’t seen them in so long, I feel I should really focus on them & spoiling them for a couple of weeks. Then IF she protests too much you can remind her that they’re very much stay-at-home people & you fear that she’ll be bored while you dote on them.

I agree with @janbb This is an issue of boundary setting. If I were you, I would tell my partner that this is strictly a home visit with the rents, and not any entertainment or out to dinner or sights.

In my opinion it’s not a problem.

Visiting your own parents without her is completely normal and definitely not something you should feel guilty over.

Not weird.

Not weird.

Your reasons are justified. And I would remind the g/f that when she has gone with you in the past, she wanted to sight see and this visit is going to be all about your parents. No sight seeing or shopping will be involved on this visit. I think she should realize how bored she will be and not be too upset.

As a parent I would rather see my kid and not my kid and her SO. So you’re good.

Just no.

I’ll add, being the SO, mostly I’m happy to see my Inlaws, but it’s nice not to go sometimes when my husband sees his family, so your SO might actually be relieved.

” We live together and she always likes to do things and go places together.”
If your not married at this point perhaps she doubts your committment, hence the need to be around you all of the time?

I have the same issue. My husband always wants me to come along when I don’t want too and I also would love to go spend time with my mom as well without him. The last time I did that I ended up spending more time with my mom. When he comes along he always tries to plan things and my mom doesn’t go anywhere as well. She’s 92 and very much a homebody. So I get it. Only difference I suppose is my husband enjoys being with my family. I enjoy visiting his family but for a short while. I just feel like a third wheel most of the time. I don’t think your request is unreasonable. Though ask if the reason your partner ask is because their parents keep asking if you are coming. It could be they request you come because they think its what your partner wants to hear. I will admit that I enjoy seeing my daughter more alone than with her husband. Nothing against him, it’s just that her attention is either divided between her dad, me, and her husband or he’s totally ignored and I can see he is really bored and doesn’t want to be here. So I request he comes if he wants but I don’t insist. And now she mostly comes alone unless we are doing a family dinner or something special, like a birthday or holiday celebration.

Rick left home for 6 weeks once to stay at his dad’s house to take care of his dog and tend to his house while his dad was in the hospital and rehab. No reason at all for me to go.

I completely understand your situation. In a former life this happened to me.
You should be a ble to go visit your parent by yourself. There is nothing wrong with this. I hope you find the ability to do this without it being an issue and causing angst for anyone. If your partner can’t accept your wishes, then there is something else going on that needs to be worked through.
Good Luck. Let us know how it goes.

Well, how did the trip go???