Can 2 submissive people be in a relationship?

“No thank you, after you.”
– “No, after yoú.”
“No love, after you.”

Doubt it. Neither could express their full sub desire without a dom. It could work in a thruple, with one dom and two subs.

@erebus9 Are you asking about a sexual relationship specifically or relationships in general?

It REALLY depends on what you actually mean, and the actual people involved.

For example:

A) Polite, not very assertive people who consider others’ needs before their own, often tend to get along very well, though they may take a while to choose which restaurant to go to.

B) People with great desires to be dominated by others, and no inclination to dominate others in a relationship, probably aren’t going to be able to do that for each other (unless maybe they get help from someone else).

A and B may describe very different people and situations.

Questionable. Like the two very polite gophers in cartoons.

Can’t answer without more info. Do you simply mean passive? or are you referring to “Fifty Shades of Gray” submissive? Very different.

Passive? Sexually submissive? Please clarify.

Is one of them a switch?

I don’t think so.

Hmmmm…

Well okay – It’s actually possible, and can work if what you’re talking about is one or more fairly brief sexual encounters. The roles people may be accustomed to playing in a ritual context like BDSM aren’t actually that rigid. I’m sometimes strongly attracted to someone new without really knowing anything about their preferences, and things happen…

Like @Six hinted, “switching” can go on all the time without anyone totally taking over a dominant role. When it’s just about desiring and creating sexual pleasure there are always possibilities. But in terms of a life long relationship where the partners each have a naturally passive/submissive personality that involves everything they do – I got no clue how or if it could last, or what it would feel like if it did.

My guess is they’d have to hire a lot of help, and take a lot of drugs.

By submissive I mean having no desire to dominate, Like neither one wants to take control…
And I mean a sexual relationship.

Maybe I’m naive but I’ve never thought of my sexual relationships in terms of dominant and submissive roles. I think of them in terms of giving and getting pleasure and successful communication so the question doesn’t mean much to me.

I don’t think that it would work with two sub’s. Someone would have to evolve to the dom role.

Like neither one wants to take control…

If they’re true subs, neither person would feel emotionally or sexually fulfilled.

Imagine the double orgasm denial routine…
And that for multiple years.

@erebus9, and @everyone – Gotta say there’s more to this than expected, mostly because the answers show how much mixed feeling there is toward sex, personalty, and gender roles.

My own opinion (and experience) is that all this stuff is way more fluid than most people may think – and always has been. So it’s interesting to see what other people think is possible, acceptable, and natural. But also a little puzzling that folks have so many different notions about “submissive” and “dominant” roles, and what limits they imply.

I’ll just say that I believe sex should be fun, and can be when partners respect and support each others’ curiousity. Also, being sexually submissive doesn’t make you inferior or unfeeling, and being dominant doesn’t mean you get all the best all the time.

There’s more to everyone than we realize.