Would you give this cheating partner a second chance?
Hello,
I watched a movie Sunday night and this question comes to mind.
It is set during the second WW.
So we have a couple, Jason is a doctor and Jill, a piano teacher.
Jason had a friend (Fisher) who turned out to be a traitor, Jason became a whistleblower and managed to destroy fisher’s plans, so they became enemies.
Months later, Jason is called to the warzone and he goes.
To take revenge on Jason, Fisher targets Jason’s wife. He starts getting near her, pretending to be interested in learning piano. He uses his charms to woo Jill, she denies at first but soon they start having a passionate affair. She clearly knows it’s bad since he is her husband’s best friend (she doesn’t know about the traitor thing.). Since her husband stays away on warzone, she feels lonely which is why she wanted a man beside her.
Months pass..
When Jason comes back, he is devastated to see his wife and enemy (ex friend) doing their thing on the bed. At that time Fisher reveals it all that he doesn’t love Jill and he only did this to take his revenge on him, to make him feel ashamed. Learning the truth Jill is shocked and feels guilty towards Jason. Fisher leaves..
Should Jason forgive his wife? Does she deserve a second chance?
Sorry for the long question this time.
Regards!
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Only Jason knows the answer.
No, Jason shouldn’t forgive her. He’s fighting for his country and she’s lonely? He had to be lonely also, but kept loyal to her.
“He had to be lonely also, but kept loyal to her.
That is an assumption, not necessarily part of the scenario.
I am on the side in general of attempting reconciliation, especially when one partner has been absent for an extended period of time.
Each individual case is different!!! I am a firm believer that “once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater so my gut instinct is NEVER forgive!!! Still, I have been in situations where I felt that anybody can make a mistake & I’ve given a 2nd chance. Sometimes, they NEVER cheated again. Others went for the cheating again. IF I break down & forgive the 1st time, DON’T do it again & expect another forgiveness because it’s just NOT going to happen!!! Many people find it difficult to actually “forgive” the other person but still try to make it work. IF you can’t get past the hurt of being cheated on, then it’s time to move on!!!
It’s an individual choice that ONLY the person being cheated on can determine!!!
Of course he should forgive her, she was manipulated by her husbands enemy. If her husband did not share the information with his wife, he shares partial responsibility for her indiscretion.
I think you guys are confusing forgiveness with trust. Forgive? Yes. Trust again?
Maybe, after a lot of counseling and time.
If I was the guy married to the woman, things would not be the same as they were before. I wouldn’t be angry. I would be hurt. If there was any chance at reconciliation, she would need to be willing to be held accountable for her time while we were apart, and she’d need to be willing to go through lots of marriage counseling . If she wasn’t willing to do that, wasn’t contrite or copped an attitude, that would be my cue that she was not committed.
So what if ex friend had fallen in love with wife? She would have ditched the husband without a second thought.
That depends on quite a lot and unless you know the people extremely well it’s not something someone outside can answer. Binary answers on this are all wrong. I generally believe in second chances but there are times when one should not be given. This case depends on the past history of the relationship, states of mind and a whole host of mitigating factors.
Hell no. The circumstances have no bearing on this.
To quote Paul Simon:
“You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don’t need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free”
I think maybe you should watch less movies and see what happens in real life as you live it.
Thank you for the answers..
and @janbb sorry, this is one thing I can’t do. I know I should but I simply can’t.
^^ OK – if that’s what you need to do for some reason.
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