Was my son being rude?

Unless there’s more to the story, it sounds to me like you are way over-reacting. He grabbed your phone, you didn’t like it and he “kept apologizing multiple times, saying he wouldn’t do it again….” Sounds like you have a lovely son; not sure what your problem is?

Maybe he grabbed it from you because you were paying more attention to your phone and the not real friends on facebook instead of talking to your son who is right there in front of you.
You are over reacting and I can’t believe you haven’t talked to him since then. It’s not like he kicked your puppy.

It does sound odd, so I’d discuss it and ask why it happened. @chyna may be correct and you just need to communicate more effectively with each other.

As a parent of an adult this is a very strange question (in my opinion). Your relationship with your son determines if his behavior was rude and unacceptable OR regular, routine, and has always been acceptable. No one knows. No one knows you, your son, or what is routine for you and him.

He apologized multiple times. Get over it.

You haven’t spoken to your son in nearly a week because he was screwing around with your phone and then apologized? Yes, what he did was rude, but not speaking to your son for 4 days after he apologized is raising all kinds of alarm bells. Is it common for you to engage in silent treatment for extended periods of time with your son?

It sounds like he was being silly and goofy. Maybe he’s silly and goofy? Maybe he thought it was funny. If he’s typically like that, then I think the silent treatment is a bit harsh.

Yes, he was rude. Yes, being upset when your son is rude is reasonable. Not talking because of it seems extreme, but we all deal with stuff at our own pace. Just call him. A few good interactions may help put it in the past.

Hard to tell just from this. We are limited to your perspective and are missing quite a bit of context.

I could easily see this slicing both ways.

Though rude or not, the fact that you haven’t talked to him in over a week* makes me wonder if this may just be the last straw on the camel’s back.

I haven’t really talked to my sister in over a month seemingly over something pretty dumb. But it honestly wasn’t even about that. I was just tired of her drama.

What is your relationship with your son usually like?

*Wait…Memorial Day was only three days ago. That’s hardly a week.

Unless you live together, it’s quite easy to go three days without talking.

IF you or your son were to die today, would a cell phone really be so important??? Would you want the last thing that he remembered of you was that you were so furious over a cell phone that you stopped speaking to him or that you thought more of your phone than you did of your relationship with him??? Were his actions rude??? Yes, but once done, he couldn’t have a do-over. Only option he had at that point was to apologize…which he did multiple times!!! I think you need to call him TODAY & talk to him like he’s your child. You don’t necessarily need to bring up the phone incident on this call. Still, some time soon, I’d explain to him that you found his conduct totally disrespectful & from this day forward that you EXPECT him to ask before just taking your phone. As an adult child, how did he not know that snatching your phone would piss you off so bad??? Any time my Mom got upset with me or my brother, she’d mutter under her breath, I don’t have to like you to love you. You aren’t required to “like” his behavior; but as his Mother, you should “love” him enough to forgive his action!!!

Yeah, your son was acting like an asshole. I wouldn’t want to talk to anyone who forcibly grabs something in my possession either. You ask, you don’t take.

He is your child. Focus on your job as a parent. This is very telling of a bigger issue going on here with you.

I also, like some, think that there were more serious prerequisites for this than what you described, just try to give him more love and listen to his problems explaining how to behave in different situations