Do any other women wish they were a man sometimes?

Not really. Men don’t have it any easier.

I just want to be a better human.

I’ve never felt like I wanted to be a man.

I do know a woman who says she sometimes wished or even wishes she were a man. She was raised in a fairly macho culture, and growing up she didn’t have nearly the freedom her brothers had, plus she was athletic and was more limited than the boys.

When I was small I used to wish I was a boy because they seemed to have all the fun. They had scout and canoe trips, learned how to build camp fires etc. My boy cousins built tree houses and ran the farm machinery. They learned how to do all the things I was interested in (I never knew of any groups that had such activities for girls).

But then I grew up, and learned there are wonderful and unique things that only women can do, and they were very fulfilling.

I have since learned how to do many of those things that I had envied about the boys. It’s fun, but I am happy being a woman.

@Cindy1302 When I was young I wish I was a man, because I thought men had it easy. I thought men would get all the advantages and privileges in life, from job opportunity to family matters. I realized that the reason why I wanted to be a man was because the media painted an unrealistic portrait of what a man’s life would be, and my education constantly talked about women’s responsibility in society, which also gave me an unrealistic fear of a woman’s life.

I, like @JLeslie‘s friend and @snowberry, had a reason to wish for a different gender because of unrealistic impression and influence. For @JLeslie‘s friend, that was the culture she grew up in. For @snowberry, that was the unrealistic impression of what boys could do and wish that she could have done it too. And for me, it was the unrealistic fear of the negative implication of being a woman.

So maybe take a deep look within yourself and see why exactly led you to believe being a man is better because they are stronger. Was you bullied by men in the past? Was you influenced by the media around you? Did you see a woman being assaulted by a man and couldn’t do anything about it?

I never wished to be a male. It never occurred to me.

Edit: In fact, one time my MIL asked if I ever wished to have a brother (I have a sister) and my answer was a flat “no.” I never was wishing for more testosterone to be around.

I said your friend :P

The grass isn’t always greener.

@Mimishu1995 I must have read your answer too quickly. Sorry about that, it’s my mistake.

I think they have it much easier than us. I would like to be one for a little while to see what it’s like. Men don’t get cramps and stuff like that.

@RayaHope true, but we have to put up with women who do have cramps

@elbanditoroso LOL!! I never thought of that. Touché

Of course! Higher paychecks, more opportunities, less physical risk in general.

They also are cheaper on personal hygiene and maintenance. They get less intrusive physicals. There’s no male oral contraceptives. Not a bad deal.

IMO being male sort of sucks. It’s in no way easier. Every dirty job, every dangerous profession more or less falls on our shoulders. We are judged not only on how we look but on how successful we are. We suffer more health issues and have a shorter life-span. We are told we have privilege but we are constantly answering to others and have little to no time to ourselves. The “extra” money we make, which in reality is not a thing gets diverted to others more often than not. Truth be told, we have less disposable, discretionary income. Work is not optional for most of us, once we have a family generally you have to go to work regardless of how you feel or like our job. That’s the main reason we “make more” we are more often in the position of “can’t quit.” Most men have little to no real social networks outside of their family. They get run through the ringer in divorce courts. Suicide rates are higher. Being a guy is like being an overworked pack mule and you constantly are disrespected for just being one. There is a lot more. This won’t be popular, but I feel white females have more privilege.

@Blackwater_Park My dad used to say that men get little choice about working or not, they are expected to work while, women had a “choice.” His point wasn’t that women have it easier, because he was very concerned about equality having two daughters, but his only point was the stresses and pressures on men are often overlooked and ignored.

I don’t think most women have a choice anymore, they are mostly expected to work also. I didn’t work for a while and now work part time, and I think it’s an incredible luxury. I wish my husband would stop working so hard, but he seems compelled to work, to prove something I think, and his hobbies are MUCH more expensive than mine.