Can you help me work through my confusion?

You will never know if you only contact prospects on the internet. Get out there in the real world and meet some REAL people!

Thanks for your advice but it wasn’t helpful at all. I do have REAL people around me but i can’t ask them about that.

I don’t think he meant people to ask, he meant meet bi or gay girls in real life!

@smudges thanks for explaining. yeah i should, i know…but i am living in a small city so i am not sure how to find them and meet them secretly. also if i do what about my fam? how am i going to solve this problem?

Thank you for trusting us with your situation.

I’m gay, and I’m old. I’ve experienced a lot.

First, there is nothing at all wrong with being bi or being a lesbian. It’s perfectly natural.

That girl is much too far away from you. It’s ok to be friends with her, but I suggest you be cautious about becoming intimate with her. Keep looking for someone closer where there’s at least a chance you could actually meet at some point.

Be very cautious about revealing things about yourself to people online. They could be lying just to get you to send pictures.

I’m not sure what to say about your mother. I had awful parents. They disowned me. I hope your mother loves you more than that.

It’s ok not to know if you’re gay or bi. You’re the age when you figure those things out. Exploring is what it’s all about. A lot of people don’t figure it out until they’re in their twenties. You’ve got time.

I hope this helps.

Only you can determine if you are bi sexual.

Do you like girls and boys equally (sexually)?

You indicated that you like girls but you didn’t say that you like boys.

When I was your age I liked girls a lot but panicked with nervousness when I was around them. I had a boy fiends that I would masturbate with. That was just to relieve stress. One of my boy friends once told me that we are “homos”. I said no we aren’t and ask yourself this question, “Would you rather have me jerk you off or would you rather be humping a girl?”. We used each other until we got girl fiends. I’ve never had sexual thoughts or feelings towards men, only women.

Good luck and good health to you.

I think it is okay to like/love whomever you want to as long as the feeling is mutual. it sounds like she may live too far from you though to make it work.

As far as your mom, I would hope she could see the goodness in a relationship built on trust and true love over her own pitiful/spiteful homophobic ideas. Her love for you should trump all other feelings and she should support you in your life to help you become happy and healthy.

Just a suggestion. If your mother is not supportive, maybe you don’t need to share all your feelings with her as you embark on your discovery of your own sexuality. Find support in other places and save the conversations with your mother to have when you are more clear in how you feel. Even with supportive parents, part of developing your own individuality is forming your own sense of self.

Many thanks to @Hawaii_Jake & @RayaHope! I will definitely talk to that girl about the distance/issues we have. She’s very nice to me, so I’m a little afraid of upsetting her or breaking her heart.
@Hawaii_Jake I am really sorry to hear that…Sadly not every family is
understanding and supportive. Hopefully my mom will accept me as i am.

@gondwanalon, thank you for explaining me based on your experience, you made me look from a different perspective. As others have mentioned, I believe I should meet gay/bi girls in real life soon.

@janbb, I will talk to my mom when I am sure of myself, as you said. I’m not so sure about being bisexual so yeah, I think I need to be a little more confident and think about it.

Again, Thank you all for your help and advice!! <3

This is YOUR life to live. Parental acceptance is difficult on many topics including this one.
The only way to understand all this better is to go out and follow your desires and explore. Certainly go slow and be careful. You are the only one that can determine this. Your Mom or a website will not give you the answer.
You are young. You will have to determine your own path. Have fun. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

^^ ...and in the great scheme of things, it’s all small stuff.

@smudges yeah, but to each individual one of us it’s all pretty big stuff!

^^ Agreed. I wasn’t minimizing, just being kind of philosophical. ;)

@janbb At the end of your life, it’s mostly just small stuff. Don’t sweat it. Follow your gut.

It may be “just small stuff” at the end of one’s life, or after lots of life experience, but when one is 17 like the OP is, these things loom very large, @Forever_Free.

@jca2 I agree that they are looming items. It is an expression to help remove the anxiety of doing something and not to diminish the importance.

^^ maybe no one else has heard the saying, or heard of the book.

^^ I have heard of it but I still think for most of us, a lot of it is big stuff.

^^ I agree, and I know it’s big stuff for the OP. I wasn’t making light of the situation. I have an upcoming reevaluation for rent assistance that’s freaking me out! :^/

^^ Le hug!

^^ et à vous