[NSFW] Do men act like jerks on purpose?

Some people do get a kick out of playing games, and some people are just being themselves.

It’s easier than being a good person, plus if you have dumb friends they’ll probably like the story of being a jerk more than a heartfelt meet cute.

To some it’s a defense mechanism, others just don’t know anything and are trying to make it up from various suspect internet sources, and some are just legitimately bad people.

Guessing yes. Young people for reasons stated above. And older people who are mature enough to know what they’re doing but being politicians…who get votes, they keep doing it.

No. They act that way because, basically, they are children. Remember this when it comes to men: “The difference between men and boys is the price of their toys.” And be sure to take that LITERALLY!!

I wouldn’t say this is all men. But I would assume if someone treats you coldly after sex it’s because that was always their nature and only behaved well before the sex to get sex. So basically the person isn’t really into you and only wants sex. My husband has always been warm afterward when he stayed awake. LOL
Now it is possible for a guy to maybe become cold afterward if he feels his partner wants another round and won’t let up and he’s tapped out completely.

There are two different things here that would help clarify.
How is he being a jerk?
How is he acting cold?

If he is falling asleep that is one thing. If he is not treating you the same way and it makes you feel that all he wanted was sex, then this is a different thing.

Please don’t tar all men with the same brush.

I am assuming you have had negative experiences with men but you may have just be unlucky and I am sire you will meet a man who does not act like or is not a jerk.

I can assure you that all men do not act like jerks whether it be after sex, a date or in normal life.

Sometimes, it may be because you had sex too fast in the relationship. There was not much else to the relationship so it’s easy for him to distance from you. If you wait until you have more of a relationship, there’s more of a bond and the sex just enhances that.

Oh. Just found out I should have read the details. Sorry.

All I know is he should not treat her “cold” anytime! Why would he treat her bad, especially after sex? Did he hurt her or is this something far worse? Oh, I’m sorry I don’t know what this is about.

I tend to try, even too hard, to avoid being a jerk, especially to women. The times I have been a jerk to someone, I tend to regret a lot, for a long time.

There are some doofuses out there though, and some dysfunctional persistent conversations, such as, “women like jerks”, etc, which I suspect may be responsible for a lot of pointless jerkish behavior.

I’m with @Forever_Free on looking for more explanation. What he’s doing might help us figure out if he is egotistical or socially inept or even damaged goods. But my overall answer would be that if a guy acts in a way after sex that you don’t like you can either talk to him (unlikely to help) or realize he isn’t “the one” and move on.

@RayaHope….he got what he wanted, and now he’s done with her.

@Dutchess_III God that is so wrong :(

That’s why you don’t jump into sex too soon.

I haven’t and I’m careful. But it’s getting complicated..

Some do some don’t. All people are different, gender aside.

Some PEOPLE do act like jerks on purpose. Some do it on accident. Some don’t know better.

Far as sex goes, he could just be insecure or tired, not a jerk.
You’ll need to observe nonsexual behavior to know if he’s a jerk.
Does he rev his engine? Does he tailgate others? Does he surround his house in floodlights? Does he slam cupboards? All of those ancillary observations will tell you if he’s a jerk or not.