How do I tell my family I want to be a girl?

I think it’s wonderful you have decided you’re a girl. Congratulations!

We’re going to need a lot more information about your family before we can suggest how you tell your family about your great decision.

Do you live in Boston? Do you live in Valdosta, Georgia? Is your family religious? There are so many things to take into consideration.

Tell us more.

Hard to say without more details. I can’t imagine how scared and anxious you must feel. If you get us more details I’m sure you can get some excellent advice from the group here. I’m of no use on this topic other than to cheer you on and wish you the very best.

How old are you? That could have some impact on things as well. But as @gorillapaws said, it’s hard to say without more detail.

I don’t know the specifics of how you should tell your parents, but definitely do not wear a dress and tights. It might make you feel more comfortable, but imagine how it would make your parents feel. This is something you have to build up to. Tell how you see yourself and the way you feel about things and why you feel there needs to be a change. Make sure to tell your parents how much you love them and how appreciative you are of how they have supported you, and that you hope that they will continue to do so.

It might help if you enlist the assistance of someone that you trust, to be with you when you tell your parents. For example, a school counselor or a social worker, therapist or close family friend or relative. That way, the person can sit with you when you’re talking to your parents, for emotional support for you and to discuss it all together with them.

“Mom? Dad? I want to be a girl.”
Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy!

It will help if you say you feel like a girl instead of wanting to be a girl.

My child came to me when they were 13 years old. They told me they see a boy when they look in the mirror, not a girl. They felt like a boy and dressing as a girl made them very uncomfortable. The way he expressed himself helped me understand. He’s now a thriving 19 year old man.

If they have been paying attention to your behavior then they likely won’t be surprised by your announcement.

Don’t do the drama thing of dressing up to tell them. If you’re unsure how they will react, it’s best to go slowly.

There are many steps to this journey and you want your family on board if possible.