Is it normal to go to your ex-spouses funeral?

Sure. Funerals are for the living, not for the dead.

I wouldn’t go.
I didn’t go to my Mother’s funeral.
The only funeral that I plan on going to is my own. HA!

I probably would. I’d go with my sons.

Maybe. Depends on how much friendliness remained after the split.

You don’t get to decide what is normal. You are asking about a personal decision that has nothing to do with anyone else.

Of course I would!
I have tried, with varying success, to stay on good terms with those I once cared a great deal for.

If I ever have an ex-spouse and especially if I have kids with him, then yes I would. Even if for only them. After-all, I must have loved him at some point.

I’d rather not have to make that decision any time soon.

My father had a disastrous second marriage that caused him much misery. They divorced. When he died, his ex had a mutual friend ask my brother if we wanted her to attend the funeral or not. I was amazed that she had that much sensitivity and consideration after all.

We said no, and she quietly stayed away.

We sent a word of thanks back by her contact.

I was happy that she didn’t think it was purely her decision.

Normal has nothing to do with it. I would definitely go to either of my exe’s funerals. I loved them and still care about them. I want them to find happiness.

I don’t have an ex thankfully. But if if I were in that situation I probably would. Not attending a funeral will not change the past.

Yes, if he and I had shared a friendly, civil relationship, or if we’d had children together, or if I’d been close with his family members and friends.

I have never been married but I know many people who are friendly with their exes. Also, the ex is very likely the parent of one’s children, and so one would want to go to the funeral services to support one’s children in their time of grief.