First off. I’m not capable of articulating just how much empathy I have for you @tinyfaery . I’m afraid that all I can offer, is my support.
Lots of great advice above. (No surprise.)
If you have followed any of my story, you know that I tried to drink myself to death. And basically did.
I simply couldn’t mentally cope with reality. Perception being my biggest “problem.”
That’s an oversimplified version of a LONG story. We ALL have a story. Each one is different. Each sentence of each page of our books (as with a work of art ) is interpreted differently, by each person. The “human experience,” is a work in progress. I think that some of the best people, don’t put enough value on themselves. Just because you, or someone else, can’t see something doesn’t mean it isn’t there.
When I look at myself, my past, my present, I am often blinded by the worst things. I get caught/lost in those things…
But… I have to admit to myself that no matter what obstacles I have encountered, I have endured. Often. I have navigated with tools I haven’t credited myself with.
WARNING. If you haven’t seen “The Wizard of Oz,” SPOILER ALERT!...
The characters are simplified metaphors, not particularly well rounded, or developed, and predictable…Yawn…
But the ending isn’t…
Each character, as the Wizard has to remind them, already possesses what they seek. They only saw themselves, as what they perceived as something missing. Ok. That’s a fairly simple lesson. Yet. This is a common mistake, we all make.
The overall principle is at least as old as Buddhism. Whether it is a path of enlightenment, or a yellow brick road, that is the best we can aspire to find, and adhere to. And. Of course you will feel strange, on a new path. New things, are often unknowns.
Personally, I am struggling with my second chance. The old me, died on the operating table (liver transplant.)
I will never drink again. I will focus on trying to love myself. Well. Because I’m not unlovable.
I’ve lost SO fucking much. But. I have gained.
Perhaps the biggest change, is that I appreciate the “little things.”
My advice, is to be someone you can love, and love yourself. Love others. Allow yourself to be
loved by others, and appreciate it.
Take care of yourself.
Peace and love.