Threesomes, should I or shouldn't I?

A threesome is a recipe for disaster 99% of the time. Just made 100% because of the possible feelings between “Jake” and “Jenna”.

Don’t do it.

I agree with osullivanbr. Jake was interested in Jenna and vice versa… If I’m you, no way I’m letting them see each other naked!

I think if you want it to work, you need to be OK w/ Jake and Jenna gettin’ it on within the context of the 3some. All for one and one for all, otherwise it ain’t gonna work. If you all can be OK with that arrangement, then it could work out. But if you’re prone to jealousy, that will destroy it eventually.

I’m no expert, but this is what I’ve usually heard from Dan Savage, and other advice givers. Only have a threesome with someone that neither of you really know. It sounds counterintuitive, but feelings are much less likely to be hurt when there isn’t history there. Also, a stipulation might be that neither of you have sex with that third person ever again, unless you agree you want to have another threesome with him or her.

My girlfriend told me that it’s “much better to be the ‘guest entertainer’”, and I have to agree. It has a great potential to mess up your relationship with your boyfriend, but not really too much of a downside if you’re the third person.

yeha but jake and jenna dont want to have sex with eahc other just with me. they both are also concerned that this will become competative on who can pleasure me better..

are they saying they don’t want to have sex with eachother, just to do it with you involved so it’s not like cheating? I’d say go for it, if you hadn’t mentioned them liking eachother at one point. What happened once, can happen again.
What if, when you’re all in the midst of hot, heavy whatever, they start making out with eachother? will you stand up and blow a whistle? will they say they just got caught up in the moment and didn’t mean anything by it?
Sounds like a recipe for disaster.

@deaddolly- i love them both dearly and i would want them to do so, its a threesome, all three people should be intimate

yeah, I think you have to be ready for the possibility that they wouldn’t mind doing each other…I’d only let the 3some happen if you’re willing to let them be intimate with each other. But being willing to let them and being OK with it after the fact are two completely different things. Are you going to always be wondering if Jake and Jenna may have had such a good time that maybe, just maybe they’re meeting up on the side? Or even if they aren’t, is Jake wishing they would? You have to be able to trust that this isn’t the case and that you will be able to continue to trust that this isn’t the case or you’re going to drive yourself nuts worrying about it, and it’s going to destroy what you have with Jake.

3somes usually end up destroying relationships, but not necessarliy. The people I know who have had 3somes, and maintained good relationships, either had the third be a “stranger” or are not sticklers when it comes to monogamy.

The 2 main parties really need to be open and honest about the whys and whos.

Have plenty of Crisco Oil on hand, so you don’t run out.

but what if they want to continue these threesomes? You know the old saying, 2’s company – 3’s a crowd. Sex is fine and dandy, but it’s when emotions come in that it could get ugly. If they had feelings for eachother before, who’s to say they won’t again.
I guess I don’t like to share. For a fun night, is one thing, but I just be afraid to let it continue. What if she came over when you weren’t around and things just got out of control and you walked in on them. Would you be ok with that? You’re a better person that I am, if you would be.

“The 2 main parties really need to be open and honest about the whys and whos.”

I second that notion. If you trust your boyfriend to be completely honest about his feelings, there’s no reason why it shouldn’t be fine if you’re fine with it. It is a gamble, though, and you should be aware of the risks. If your main objective is to have this experience with your boyfriend, and not your ex, you should consider looking for someone else to join you. It is possible to be intimate with a warm and friendly person neither of you has a relationship with and you’d minimize the risks. This way you wouldn’t be affecting two relationships.

This sounds like a recipe for utter disaster. There are just too many tangled emotions—you and Jake, you and Jenna, Jenna and Jake, competitiveness, jealousy…..

I’ve done it a few times with no disasters. Just talk about it together and if it still feels good, go for it!

I think if you really want to do it and you and your BF are interested, it would be safer to find someone neutral rather than someone who has history with either party.

jake is now saying he faears that my feelings for jenna make come back?help..

Perfectly understandable and out of respect for him, you shouldn’t do it.

If you want to have the threesome, maybe you could find someone you don’t know then, if his only objection is who the third party is. If you want to have the threesome with your friend, specifically, maybe his fears are well founded.

Try a 3-some with an artificial extra

Watch the video…

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You guys would have some fun. Go for it! It’s not a big deal. People act like that is what ruined their relationships. usually it was a-lot more than the 3 some. 3 somes are just scapegoats. people like to mask their shortcomings.

@sundayBastard The trust issues that are exacerbated by the threesome are what ruined their relationship.

@fieryspoon…..Well the issues would have eventually been exacerbated by something. So why not at least get a threesome out of the deal. Huh? Why just drag shiza on?

A lot of people say that threesomes ruin relationships, I want to know how does it ruin it exactly? Also, if anyone has had a threesome and successfully get over it, should say something. I think people are against them because its taboo or something. I havent had one, but my boyfriend asked me for one… I think it should depend on you entirely. The reason why I have not agreed to it is because I am not sure about it… Not because I think it will ruin the relationship.