What is your most important concern(s) in the upbringing of your child?

Having a a good mom.

I worked on raising my child with a conscience, and compassion. A certain amount of that depends on the basic nature of the person, but promoting kindness and care for others helps.

Having raised a child, I’ll speak on our philosophy. We found that it doesn’t take a village to raise a child, but a married mom and dad acting as a team. It worked well for us, results may vary.

Married parents are not necessary to raise a good child, or even two parents. Glad it worked for you, the alternative worked for me.

I think it’s hard, at least for me, to pick one or two concerns over any others. She’s a good person and so that’s not a concern. Hopefully she continues to be a good person.

I would like her to strive with her school work, so she can get into a decent college. What she chooses to do with her life is up to her, but college opens doors so I feel it’s important.

I hope whatever relationships she is in, in life, the other people, whether they’re friends or intimate partners, are good people who are a positive influence on her and are kind and supportive to her.

She is still “under my wing” as far as being able to do things outside of the house, because she can’t drive yet, and her friends can’t drive yet, but as this changes, as her friends get their licenses and all become more independent, I hope they make good choices and don’t do anything foolish. I was not always making smart choices when I was a late teen and in my early 20’s but the laws were different then, and there were no video cameras everywhere or social media like there is now, so it’s different.

I don’t have children, but I think I would most care that they are a good people. Good means having integrity, caring about others, considering others, and understanding they are part of a bigger community. Community can be anything from family, friends, or even as large as the global community. We all affect each other.

I would want my children to be able to support themselves once they reach adulthood (assuming they don’t have any major disability) and have confidence in the decisions they make, and be able to deal with set backs.

Also, I would want them to know how to research, build rapport with others, and ask questions, so that when they are struggling they know how to gather information and network.

Providing a stable emotionally healthy safe home environment.
Additionally providing a solid education opportunity and moral upbringing.

That they know they were loved.

Emotional regulation, morals/virtues, feeling loved/accepted and a part of a community, love/acceptance of others, identifying and fighting injustice, contributing to society.

My children are all neurodivergent (some combination of ADHD, autism, learning disabilities, anxiety, depression, PTSD, etc.).

The application of sufficient discipline. Not too little, not too much.

@kritiper But you don’t have children?

@janbb Don’t you know, it’s easy to be a great parent if you don’t have children! ;-)

^^ True dat!

This thread is “interesting”. There are so many modded posts. How hard is it not to answer if it’s irrelevant?

I have children who have all grown into fine adults by many different standards. I did one thing that I never got from my parents. I made sure to tell them often that I loved them no matter what. It seems to have had a positive effect.

That she always tell the truth.

@janbb No, I don’t have children. BUT IF I DID…

I made sure my daughter understood the importance of education, and also to view problems from a variety of angles to choose the best result possible.

I didn’t rely on school to teach her everything. I covered a lot myself.