Am I too trusting?

This is a very difficult question for us to answer.

I think a level of trust is good, but it requires some experience of when to know to use trust and when to be circumspect. That experience comes with time.

I have seen you on Fluther be appropriately trusting. I have seen you gain experience. You give evidence of growing and making good choices on here.

I have seen people be very rude to you. I have seen you react with politeness, and sometimes it amazes me. That means that I am often ready to be rude in return when you are more forgiving, and your forgiving nature is a very good thing.

I suggest that you continue to grow in experience here and learn from it. I do not suggest you become rude when people are rude to you. I think being polite is a wonderful thing.

I hope this is helpful. Let me know if you have questions.

If you believe a lot of what the media (liberal or conservative) feeds you then you are too trusting.
What do you do about it? If it looks like BS, sounds like BS and smells like BS then refuse to eat it.

From our interactions, I feel you have an appropriate set of boundaries. I don’t personally feel a person can be too honest, it’s a virtue after all. :)

I think you have a good head on your shoulders and you are not afraid to seek help when you need it. Your interactions here are telling of your nice nature and I am glad to know you. Trust is earned and if you trust someone I believe they have earned your trust and I sure hope they don’t abuse that privilege. ((HUGS))

You’ve got one of the kindest hearts I’ve seen in a long, long time!!! That leads me to believe that you are too trusting…but I could be wrong!!! I don’t think that being too trusting has to be a bad thing unless people are taking advantage of you & you’re not protecting yourself by stopping them. I’m of the opinion that you CANNOT be too honest!!! If people are taking advantage of you because of your trusting nature, I’d think that being HONEST would be the best way to handle it!!!

I believe you are a kind and curious person, and you are honest with your opinions in a respectful way.

I was once too trusting because I believed the best in everyone but my naïveté hurt me many times. I’m not so trusting anymore. Do you relate?

If you have to ask. Yes. Trust should be earned. Not given…

Let’s find out. Please DM me your bank website logon information. I won’t use it…just want to see how trusting you are.

I had this conversation with a friend yesterday.
Trust is to be earned and not just given away. It takes time and can break in an instant.
I do not think it has to do with your honesty, but assuming that everyone caries your level of honesty may.
Usually your gut can tell if you are listening.

What makes you think that you are too trusting? Can you think of a case where you got into trouble for putting your trust in someone?

@LostInParadise I’m wondering, too. Who’s making you feel that way @RedDeerGuy1?

I trusted gang members when I was younger, so we all grow and learn. Past mistakes are in the past. :)

@RedDeerGuy1 I caution you against revealing why you asked this question.

@Hawaii_Jake We dont need to know, just looking out for our buddy here. There’s not too many people here I’d defend blindly but @RedDeerGuy1 is one of them. :)

@KNOWITALL Thanks. I agree with you. When I look at the tags of the question, I think the answer may be very personal.

I do not want to know embarrassing details, just a rough idea of types of cases where he thinks he was too trusting. The only thing that I have noticed here is that RDG sometimes reveals details of his personal life that he may later wish he had not mentioned. The only advice I can give in that regard is to give careful consideration of how people may interpret what you say.

@LosrInParadise There may be more stigma attached to mental illness here, too, than Canada.

Ok thanks @all .

^Yeah. We gotchya RDG…

What did you do now Red – and how much is it costing you ??

Really there’s nothing wrong with taking people as they come, and believing that they’re honest and decent – until they show that they aren’t. What’s that old saying… “Trust, but verify”.

I think the ideal is to be open to what the world brings you, and to enjoy life without becoming a victim.

Always expect the best, but proceed with caution.

Update @all My doctor had to intervene with my charitable gifts to the homeless and Wikipedia. I would give $20 to the homeless panhandlers, and $15 to Wikipedia. Now I order groceries online and rarely go outside unless a short distance or to hail a taxi. I’m not rolling in cash, but I am not going further into debit, and maybe a little bit ahead.

@RedDeerGuy1 I’m glad you have a doctor you trust. It’s a good person to listen to.

Thanks for the update @RedDeerGuy1 This is great to hear.