@smudges . I understand and am very comfortable that “not everyone is like me.”
However. Females in my life that I assumed thought as you and @Forever_Free do, don’t. Life constantly surprises. When I have been in close quarters, or at gatherings, or bars, I have been heavily hit on by some very “professional/high character” females. That are overly aggressive.
I’ve been groped/sexually assaulted by (to me,) a large amount of females. About nine years ago, my old (current then) boss (a doctor,) and very proper woman who actually seemed to hate my style and unique personality, grabbed/fondled my balls and butthole from behind AT HER WEDDING, THAT NIGHT. She didn’t let go. And I didn’t want to put hands on her, but I talked her into releasing me. Long story.
Wasn’t the first, or last time a female has done something similar. There’s a point to this.
Firstly.
A thousand apologies.
I have indeed been speaking of attraction being too close to arousal I suppose. In my ignorance, I feel there is no real difference. As one can lead to the other, without conscious thought.
In my book/mind attraction means that our monkey brain/deep subconscious sees another as a good candidate for a mate. Being in close (really close) proximity to someone that someone is attracted to, can bring about unintended consequences. There is of course a difference in the things that occur. I might be attracted to a girl, and that’s all. Dancing with that girl, things may eventually start to happen. Involuntary things. Things I’m fairly certain some girls are intentionally trying to make happen in some circumstances. Things that are unintended otherwise.
@Forever_Free . I’ll just take blame for now, for my lack of transparency in my opinions. It’s difficult, these days, to appropriately talk about sexual matters. At any rate. If I’m not mistaken, you may be taking this subject too seriously. Or me. Not seriously enough.
I brought up my experience with females, because there is an absolutely false female driven narrative that only males see the world through a spectrum including sexual attraction as a way they think and navigate their lives. That is an indefensible, and frankly offensive cop out, victim mentality mindset. If that’s a way anyone thinks about the genders.
As far as my comments about football, I played it, in pads and/or parks since I was seven years old. I know a shit ton of guys who do.
As far as wrestling. Pro, or otherwise. Men “think” about the sexually involved in touching another guy’s junk. Typically. It grosses us out. But. We are aware of it. Hence. It is “thought about. If you’re inferring that some males “think” about attraction whilst in close proximity. I can only speak for myself, and the shared opinions of the wrestlers I have known. I have worked with a lot if them. Some are world famous. I just never heard of them, because I don’t follow the sport. But. As I mentioned, I’ve hung out with a great deal of them. Men and women. Most with years/decades of experience in the sport.
Musicians. Not only do I play lead guitar (have for decades,) though only several occasions with a band. Usually just jamming with people.
I’ve also hung out with a large amount of famous/not so famous musicians, roadies, wives of band members etc. Surprise! It’s not uncommon for them to have sexual interaction, relationships, or even marry one another.
Things that probably originated with, “thinking about it.”
I really don’t want to turn a relatively innocent thread, as RDG mentioned was it’s intention, into a Karen moment…
With all due respect and fondness to both @smudges , @Forever_Free , and RDG…
Peace and love.
Disclaimer. Yes. There are many variables in sexuality that I don’t go into. No offense intended. I am a heterosexual male. I love all that breathes…