@KNOWITALL It’s because of how you define it vs how other people define. I found this article it might help.
I was raised being told that the Germans were too much nationalists, they put country before their morality and their natural instinct of right and wrong. They followed the country leader into the evil abyss. Some of them were White Supremacists or white nationalists, basically the same thing, but some were average people following along and putting aside or brainwashed into feeling what they were doing was ok or right.
If you get at to the Arnold Schwarzenegger documentary (highly recommend) he talks about his father and how being Nazi ruined him. He talks about how it ruined many men. The Germans were defeated and the men had to live with what they had done to other human beings. They were Nationalists in my mind, different than loving your country and having patriotism to your country.
An analogy I can give is when Biden said Obama was articulate and there was a big uproar, at first I didn’t understand it. I have been told I speak well, that I am articulate, we said it about speakers and trainers who came to my job and I always took it as a compliment. If I said it about a Black person I would say it as a compliment. The problem is, the Black person often hears it very differently, because of what they group has been through over the generations. I just have to accept that and be sensitive to it. I have explained to more than one Black person that we white people say those things with each other, so I believe when Biden said it, he was saying it like he would about anyone, but now we know as a society how that hurts some people.
Also, the confederate flag is another example. I know Southerners who feel it is a symbol of being Southern or in honor of their family who fought for the South. I even know Northerns who used to wear and fly confederate flags because they thought they were cute and the people they hung out with did it. When I see that flag I don’t know if those people want to kill me. It is the flag of the WS. I understand that everyone who likes and flies the flag is not a WS, but they need to understand how it affects a lot of people.
It’s unfortunate. I understand the frustration of losing a symbol, the changes in language, and when things are being misinterpreted. I feel like the QAnon, WS, extremists have practically taken the US flag away from us. I have all sorts of red white and blue for American holidays and wear the flag other times. My husband had a huge Mexican Flag and American Flag he used to hang in the garage and when we bought a house with a flag holder on the outside wall he wanted to buy a US flag for it. Now, I feel like if I wear a flag it is so political and people probably assume I am a Trumper. It is like they warped the meaning of me just showing I love my country and I am grateful to people who founded it, fought for it, and for being able to be here.
Lastly, I want to stay that I hate that I think some Christians don’t understand what Christian Nationalists are. I didn’t understand at first, and I hate the term. I think good Christians who define Nationalists as you do might think Christian Nationalism represents them, but it does not represent you. The CN are WS and are extreme and hateful, and using words to create loyalty and antagonism. Liberals, in my opinion, should not use the term Christian Nationalists either, because I think Christians get offended and think we are talking about the average Christian who is patriotic, but that is not the case.