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Can you tell if he's really interested but playing hard?

Asked by honeybun35 (1024points) December 30th, 2023

Dealing with a man that is hot and cold . One minute he took my idea posted on Facebook. Now I’m unable to reach him.

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rebbel's avatar

Hot and cold: emotionally, physically?
Unable to reach: emotionally, physically, digitally?

honeybun35's avatar

Is that another question?

LadyMarissa's avatar

You’re so needy that you’re driving him crazy. Men don’t deal with needy very well. It tends to make them run in the opposite direction!!!

chyna's avatar

I would step back and let him come to me. He probably knows that you want to be with him.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

Set him free… and see if he comes back.

elbanditoroso's avatar

Is this the same guy as previously, or is this a new one on the string?

I think he’s split and cannot make up his mind.

On the one hand, you must be giving him something he wants. Attention? Sex? Who knows? But there is something that keeps him with you.

On the other hand, he sees that you are clingy and needy and have a weak personality, and he asks himself each time – why am I with this wimp of a woman who has no positive self-image? And when he thinks that, he backs off.

But then whatever gets from you kicks in, and he wants to be with you for a while. Not sure why—Sex? A warm breast to feel?

I think that you and this guy have similar personality issues. Both of you are excuses. You do things for comfort, but you really don’t understand each other well enough to know why you are together.

I don’t see this ending well.

smudges's avatar

He might be busy living his life.

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