I’m not trying to run other people’s lives.
If something brings a person happiness, and it isn’t bad for them, I don’t care what they do.
But. This is one of those things I talk about, when speaking about women hurting their own interests. IF they want more, than to be looked at as a model, or ” even sex objects, then no problems.
IF they are one of those women, who prefers to be seen as a person, I believe that such women do the gender (as a whole,) harm.
I think it trains young men, to start a conversation online with “can take some clothes off?” when speaking to a female.
Men/boys/males, already have a LOT of problems trying not to think about sexual things, when interacting with femalesof all ages. Seriously. ALL the comments, I’ve ever read, on a tictok of a girl asking “which outfit makes me look super hot?” I see random (probably men,) that just have one brief comment; “show us you’re butt hole!”
And the “content” creator, is not usually THAT upset about any comments. Answering comments that equate almost to sexual predation, are answered by the girl with things like “oh you guys. You’re SO bad!”
It seems crystal clear, that it is a primary concern for many women, not necessarily to want to partake in sexual acts (which guys do,) but to simply get attention. Attention that the media, THEY grew up watching/participating in, and the women that raised these girls acting similarly.
There ARE housewives out there, who just want their daughter, to be gorgeous and popular. They allow their daughters, and their friends, to do things like drink wine, or maybe use her more adult oriented clothing, to play dress up. Drugs like Xannax, or prescription opiods, are not off the table for some Moms, to give to their daughters.
These mothers, want (I guess) to somehow live vicariously through their daughters. That means keeping them popular, and maybe a little too pushed to be sexual, or to be “dramatic.”
It is impossible, to view girl, after girl, after girl, doing the same thing, without worrying about “I hope this girl’s father, is dead.”
When tictok FIRST came out, I made the mistake of thumbs upping a 35 second video, of a very attractive girl dancing.
What followed, in the tictok vine, was possibly 10 other similar videos. I thought I had accidentally subscribed to some site. I made the bigger mistake by thumbs upping the second and third video… I had NO idea, what I had done.
It’s been MONTHS, of ignoring videos, and prying it out of the algorithm. I still see one, occasionally. I am hopeful that these girls are “of age.” As a former bouncer, I wouldn’t let most of these girls in a club, no matter what their ID said.
I’m no Saint. But, I’m not trying to look at girls old enough to be my daughter, putting up these videos. Putting aside, the rampant foolishness of advertising yourself to WHOEVER has access to the internet, and the fact these girls often have pictures by landmarks in their cities, and bars they go to, I find it deeply depressing.
This plays RIGHT into, what the conservatives and P25, are I guess wanting ALL women to be. An object, used for sex, or taking care of children and the house.
There’s a time, and a place, for most things.
If I had a daughter that acted this way, I guess I’d lock her in a tower, in the backyard.
But. This is a society issue.
Grown women, have the same type of social media. Maybe less risqué, but most of the women my age, have Facebook or Instagram (which may be the worst,) and it’s an exhausting trying to keep them “content,” by making sure to “like” their fucking dessert, or just a picture by a window.
I’ve had girlfriends, with cocaine problems, that weren’t as bad as some people, with their social media crap.
And. It makes me a REAL asshole, if I say something like “I think you’re beautiful in anything, and I just don’t give a shit, about your page/whatever not looking as popular, because I haven’t looked at the 29 photos you sent me/everyone at 3AM.”
How do people have time, to do this? I can only assume, these people, have absolutely nothing better to do. And it honestly scares me, how much people “value,” how these pages/accounts mean to them.
I never made a FB page. Don’t plan to. Facebook always seemed like a way for “the cool kids,” to keep some semblance of power over girls after high-school. That’s right folks. That super hot girl, and the football player, that were loyalty in high-school, probably PEAKED in high-school. Then thr girl had 5 kids from 3 guys, and the football player, works at Lowes.
That’s what USED to happen, after high-school. At least in my experience. NOW. Those types, are still fighting to be popular and “in.“But the only tool they have, is Facebook.
I think that the internet, and our phones/cameras, have really shown that we are still fairly primitive and most of us, aren’t too smart. Why, oh why else, would we be so obsessed, essentially with a mirror?
Is there a male version, of this, uh…self emulation? I’m guessing it’s not near as popular. Why? Because women look a LOT, at themselves, and many have practically endless appetite for attention.
And THAT’S in The Bible. I swear, to God…