What was your mid life crisis like? Care to share?

My husband started showing indications of a midlife crisis at about age 35. I finally told him, “Go ahead and have a midlife crisis now if you want, but it had better be a good one, because you’ll only get one!”

He chose to wait.

Everyone struggles with their identity and self-confidence at various times in their life.
These are actually normal. It helps us flush out out choices in life. It becomes a crisis when you do things that are impactful and selfish when there are other people in your life that are left out of the process.
Something triggers this that you question where you are. Crisis phase is when you make an unsupported drastic change. Resolution comes out of the dust of it all.
Talking about these thoughts is super important to help rationalize these thoughts.

I have made several job changes in my life. Some were good, some were not so good. The not so good ones humble us.
I also have made major changes in my life. I never felt it as “leaving my life behind”. It was to forge a new life of what I wanted. Examples of this were Job changes, divorce, career changes, College enrollments, hobby changes. They have helped me to be my authentic self.
It is okay to find out who you really are, yet know that the Yellow Brick Road may not get you to where you want.

No midlife crisis here. Mine are more middle of the night crises and can occur at any age. One big turning point, not a crisis per se, was when I woke in the middle of the night and realized I had to leave my job in a family business and go back to my profession as a librarian. Never regretted that decision.

Good to see you again @MilkyWay !

I have had numerous crisis in my life…NONE of which were a midlife crisis. At 29, I see what you’re going through as a growing pain. Midlife crisis was the flimsy EXCUSE that males used to have an affair or buy an expensive fancy car to make themselves feel young again when they couldn’t think of a convenient lie. Women weren’t allowed to have a midlife crisis as they were just considered a weak PITA & booted out.

I skipped work, and cried in the bathtub untill my grave-yard shift was over. I went to the doctors for a sick note , and notice to my boss that I was unable to work for 2 weeks, and I gave him 2 weeks notice that I was quitting.

I got admitted to the hospital for 2 weeks, after a 3 months stint working at KFC.
Then went on social supports.

I don’t believe I did. I had my first child at age 19 (teen mom) with my first husband, my second child at age 34 (so called elder mom) with my third (currant) husband. Since my boys were so far apart, each one was an only child. I then had three lovely grandsons to enjoy, and just as they were growing away, so to speak, I got two more to have fun with. Now they are teens, and guess what, the great grands are coming along from the first set. Luckily, my husband loves kids as much as I do.

Except for my teen years, I have always been happy with my life.

Still waiting, maybe I’ll use some retirement money to buy a sports car….ha!