Have you ever been pressured to do something you don't want to do, leaving everyone uncomfortable?

He was. I was once in exactly that position, but the smell of the food being offered put me off. There was nothing wrong with it, just a personal thing, but it was pushed on me again and again until I snapped like you did. I got a lot of grief from the family, but really, there is not much that is more personal or intimate than food. You are not a toddler and forcing food on you if you’re not ill is unacceptable.

I am heartily sick of this kind of thing going on, it is bullying. Maybe gentle and teasing, but bullying nonetheless. I’m sure Rick didn’t mean it as such, but he needs to understand that “No” means NO, even in seemingly benign circumstances.

My response may sound over the top to some, but you (and I) grew up in a time when women were constantly instructed, steered, directed etc etc to behave, comply, never make a scene, always follow the rules someone else sets down.

Cue all the guys telling me I’m overthinking and overreacting because they haven’t had to live in a society that considers them “uppity” for saying “no” to even gently made requests.

Have a little talk with him, explain why it’s rude. Tell him if he does it again that you’ll tell a crazy older lady in Connecticut and she’ll come to Kansas and punch him in the snoot.

So there.

I can’t add a thing to what @canidmajor just said. Spot on.

It was a long time ago.
I think it had more to do with his upbringing than anything. I think he was hassled to eat food. Lord knows he had enough food issues!