Was there a point at which you felt the grandparents were no longer suitable for watching the kids? If so, what was the trigger, and how did you communicate that to them?
My kids grandparents are in their late seventies. There are certain things I find important that they refuse to do and it has been going on for a few years now and I have had enough. Has this ever happened to you to a point where you do not want them watching the kids unsupervised?.
How did you handle it?
Things that bother me are : Not changing diaper often enough, Not combing hair at all for 1 week. Not washing hair. Kids coming back with unexplained injuries. Not brushing teeth properly. Poor diet. Not taking car seat safety as serious because it was not important in their time and many more.
I just feel like at the end of the day, I am the parent and if I am uncomfortable with how things are going with the child, I have a right to limit the unsupervised contact. If you have ever felt the same way, how did you handle it?.
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It sounds like you are leaving the children with their grandparents for a week? If I had had that much valid concern, I believe I would not have left them that long. My parents did some things with my kids differently than I would have done but they were only with them overnight occasionally and mainly they were not dangerous things.
Your concerns are very valid and serious, especially the unexplained injuries. Are they your parents or your spouse’s? In any case, I think you should talk to them if you haven’t but consider leaving them without you there for shorter periods of time like an afternoon or evening. How does your spouse feel about these issues?
Why are they spending so much time watching them?
I preempted the whole thing. I have a daughter who loves me, but at the same time seems to have a grudge against me. No way would I consider babysitting her child or even changing the kid’s diaper.
When the subject first came up and she asked why, I just said, “I don’t think you would be satisfied.”
It sounds like it is more than just a little indulgence from grandparents, but actually borders on a safety or health risk.
Don’t leave the kids with those grandparents for more than a day. It’s up to you not them. I wouldn’t completely cut the kids off as long as the kids seem happy to visit their grandparents, but it sounds like anything more than one night is too much, I would actually say just a few hours is enough. If you are very uncomfortable then only have the kids visit while you are there too.
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