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Does it bother you when people repeatedly address you wrong by name or title?

Asked by canidmajor (21546points) 4 hours ago

My name is not uncommon, but I have had a nickname since birth (also not uncommon) that I use almost exclusively. I use my legal name only in non-social circumstances, so very rarely. And yet I know people who still insist, after multiple corrections, on using either my legal name or the common nickname for it (which is not what I go by).
I also don’t accept the title of “Mrs”, and have corrected people often on that as well, yet some refuse to accommodate my preferences.

I find it very disrespectful to do this. Your thoughts?

(And, just FYI, the nickname is absolute because out of nine women in three generations in this family grouping, five of us have the same legal given name. Yes, it is a bit excessive, and we in the youngest generation have stopped the tradition.)

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7 Answers

Caravanfan's avatar

Honestly no, not really.

elbanditoroso's avatar

Not at all. Their problem, not mine.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

Yes, it is utterly disrespectful. I would raise a stink about it.

janbb's avatar

It doesn’t bother me when people think my name is “Jen” and not “Jan.” I have started spelling it out to new people. What does bother me is a friend who keeps calling me by my full name when I’ve been using a short form for years.

chyna's avatar

I don’t like when they don’t use my right name. I usually correct them.

janbb's avatar

But it is chyna, isn’t it?

chyna's avatar

Yes, yes it is!

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