I was dating a guy a year ahead of me, so I went to his senior prom when I was a junior. I had never even thought about prom and barely knew what it was until he brought it up. I wonder if my parents went to prom? I doubt my mom did since she finished school after 11th grade, but I might be wrong. We had prom king and queen, I was completely clueless about it, and didn’t even know it was a thing that someone might hope to be.
We didn’t get a limo, that seemed crazy extravagant to me, but I guess if a few families go in on it, it isn’t very expensive and the parents don’t have to worry about their teenagers driving drunk. Keep in mind most people are 18 at prom and you cannot legally drink until 21 in the US.
It was tradition for the boy, should I say young man, to give his date a corsage to wear, and for the man to wear a boutonniere. I didn’t want the corsage, but I went along with the tradition. Just seems like a racket similar to Hallmark Holidays.
I guess it gives young men and women some practice at attending formal parties. Some kids might have very little exposure. Also, nice to have a party if you live in a place where there is very little opportunity for young people to go out to dine and dance.
I hate the pressure to spend money though. People might get left out or feel inadequate. I hope younger generations feel ok going just as a group of friends and not needing a date. I would GUESS that part of the original reason for proms was to get people paired up and soon to marry.
So, I went to my boyfriend’s prom, and then he went to mine when I was a senior. They were boring for me, and I felt not much of a part of it. I wasn’t really a “high school” girl, and I stopped attending school mid senior year, so I had not even been in school for a few months by the time prom came around. Most of my friends drank a lot, and I didn’t, and so I had become distant from going out with them. Looking back, I think prom was probably some of the least fun I have had a party. I barely remember the proms. It was at a nice venue in Maryland near DC somewhere, I don’t even remember. My high school was about 30 minutes from the DC line.
I remember hearing that in some Southern states there are separate proms for Black kids and white kids. I can’t even believe that was happening any time in the last 50 years, but the report was not very long ago.