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How would you like your cremated remains handled?

Asked by gondwanalon (23180points) 9 hours ago

My wife’s sister recently died. My wife’s niece wants to honor her mother’s wishes by depositing her ashes in San Francisco Bay.

Made me think about how I would like my ashes dealt with. I think it would be cool to have my ashes released from a drone 10,000 feet up in the air (the higher the better). That way my ashes would likely be spread many square miles.

How about you?

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ragingloli's avatar

They can snort it like cocaine for all I care.

smudges's avatar

I like the idea of going into the ocean, but a field or forest would do. I just don’t want to be in a box underground. I have claustrophobia and am afraid of the dark – like really dark. I know I’ll be dead and theoretically unaware of my location, but I don’t want to take any chances.

Tropical_Willie's avatar

Somewhere in the waters around the Hawaiian Islands !

Drones can’t fly over 400 feet.

https://www.av8prep.com/aviation-library/part-107-drone/what-happens-if-you-fly-a-drone-above-400-feet

Dutchess_III's avatar

However they want to.

filmfann's avatar

My pat flip answer is that I want my remains thrown into the ocean, but that I don’t want to be cremated. I want people to think of me as their “chum”.

Friends of my sister works in Disneyland, and say people often ” distribute” loved ones ashes in some of the rides, like Pirates Of The Caribbean.
For me, I would never want that. They annually clean the rides thoroughly, and I wouldn’t want my family to mourn me while on a fun ride.
Maybe releasing my ashes from a hot air balloon over water.

Jeruba's avatar

How? Gently, as if they could feel something. That’s for the survivors, not me.

I would like to have a handful of ashes scattered in the Vermont village where I was born, on the Atlantic Ocean beach where I spent childhood summers a short walk from my Massachusetts home, in easy view of the growing Boston skyline visible just across the bay, and in Ca!ifornia at the Henry Cowell Redwood State Park, my cathedral. Plus a little for the Pacific Ocean. My late husband wanted his ashes to go with mine, but I’d say just a token amount.

Maybe mail a packet to Fairfield, Iowa, and ask the postmaster to drop a tablespoonful in the grass of the town sqare if it’s not inconvenient. And send a handful to a Canadian cousin to rest near my father’s churchyard burial place.

If I could have my way, I’d like to be roasted with a book of poetry, a small notebook, and a sharp pencil.

seawulf575's avatar

Well, when my dad died, we cremated him and had a small, personal ceremony at a local park he used to love to go to. We put his ashes into some bushes to help add fertilizer to them. Something like that would be okay with me. Though if I wanted to be showy, I’d have my survivors bribe the company shooting off fireworks on the 4th of July to put little packets of me onto all the rockets they shoot up.

Jeruba's avatar

Amendment: Pour the rest into the Charles River close to the Larz Anderson bridge. Let it stand for all of Cambridge, spreading outward from the Square.

chyna's avatar

This will seem cold, but leave them in the incenerator. (I probably spelled that wrong, but I didn’t get a different spelling.)
The reason I say this is that it is putting a burden on the loved ones left. Just as your question asks, what the heck do I do with these ashes?
I work part time for a company that does auctions etc., for elderly people that have passed or gone to elder care homes. I have found many ashes of their pets, no humans, but I’m at a loss as to what to do with the ashes. The loved ones were obviously at a loss also.

SQUEEKY2's avatar

We have a five foot teddy bear, and I want to be put in there then just sit it in the corner of the living room.

mazingerz88's avatar

I have my Mom’s urn in our family home where they raised us. I would have mine placed there as well. And my Dad’s if he so wishes.

I can only hope that whichever family member gets the house after we’re all gone, me and my siblings…a niece or nephew who inherits that family home honors our wishes.

LifeQuestioner's avatar

I saw something the other day where now they have these caskets made out of a certain type of mushrooms. And so they don’t embalm you but they just bury you in one of those caskets and the fungus takes over and breaks you down into nutrients. If it’s cheaper than cremation, that’s how I want to go because I don’t want my family to have to foot the bill anymore than necessary and I probably won’t have any money to pay into it. But I don’t really care, just don’t want to be a financial burden after I go.

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