How do I stop being so blunt and coming off as a mean person?
I mean, it is not intentional at all. Obviously. I have a straightforward way of speaking and saying things. And then I get called out when it comes off as rude and then I feel dumb because I do not know what I am apologizing for.
I keep getting told by this guy I only talk to over text, that I am too mean. No one has ever told me this and I am not changing how I normally talk with him. I talk to him same way I talk to anyone else. I told him that at this point, I think our personalities do not match because I always talk like this… but I will try to work on it.
Have any of you noticed I am too rude/blunt/whatever? I am not just asking this because of one guy, it is a reccuring thing that I am getting accused of and I want to fix it. I feel I just do not understand how to speak, and then over text it is worse.
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Text can be misconstrued a lot have you actually tried talking to him?
Nope, but it was just something that prompted me to ask this question. I suppose that was a detail I could have left out.
Text is different. I still try to type like how I speak, though.
I don’t think this is something anyone can comment on because a lot of contexts are missing. What is the situation when it happens? What kind of people make the comment? Random people or someone related to you in some way? It could be you, or it could be the person. I don’t have enough information to conclude here.
I agree with @Mimishu1995 that some context would help, and some details.
If you are being told you’re mean, you should think about what the circumstances were and what, specifically, you said, and if there was any way that what you said could have been toned down a bit.
In one description of the way you say things, you say it’s straightforward and it comes off as rude. When you look at the way you say things, is it rude?
Alright yeah, bad question. Guess I did not realize how context heavy it was.
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