Why can't people let others have fun?

Wow, that’s QUITE a coloring job!

Some people like to be mean on the Internet, where they can dump some negative critical energy to try to cope with whatever other feelings they have going on. Kind of like 7th grade mean kid behavior, made to seem consequence free through the filter of TikTok and impersonal accounts.

Also I expect many/most people are creatively frustrated, and/or would love to be appreciated themselves, so that gets translated into projection at others, because they’re suffering and were grown up in toxic shaming situations that have them being twisted that way.

Cultures that over-emphasize depressing work to earn right to a livelihood, and that don’t value creativity, art, or other voluntary endeavors (to include playing games), except maybe for a precious few, tend to do this a lot.

Some people put others down so they feel better about themselves. It’s mean plain and simple.

A lot of people do not value fun. They see it as lazy or unproductive. Americans tend to think you can have a little fun, but you are not allowed to have a lot of fun.

I guess it depends if the work or school that should be getting done is getting done, then having fun after that is acceptable. Work before pleasure.

Where I live many of us say we try to have fun every day, but this is a community of retirees, so many of them worked for 50 years of their life and finally have time to do what they want.

My goal is to have a lot of fun, because life is short, and so much of life is doing what others expect of you and what you have to do not what you want to do. It took me until late into adulthood to really know what I find fun, and so now that I have figured it out I want to do those things.

We have adult coloring here where I live. I looked at your link and her drawing is incredible!

@SergeantQueen I can see it without an account. It looks like she spent a great deal of time on it. Very nice, and I am certain that the complainer couldn’t and wouldn’t have done as well.

I give you the greater internet fuckwad theory. Anonymity plus audience makes normal people total fuckwads.

I know the internet brings out the worst in people. I want a psychological study on how anonymity is so powerful. I am anon on most my accounts, and I panic if I come off slightly rude when I do not mean to. It is so weird.

I have two answers to this question. The first if that if she is having fun, the opinions of others shouldn’t matter. The second is that many people who either don’t have talent or are scared of taking the plunge to show it off will often try to belittle those that go where they cannot.

Do you know these naysayers personally? Are they people you have relationships with, that you respect? If not, then don’t worry about what they have to say. They are meaningless names in the internet. If they are people you are close with, then have a civil discussion with them in which your view will disagree with theirs.

Looking at the picture, it seems like she is having fun with it and is putting out some amazing coloring. Enjoy them and let the fools say what they will.

“I just wonder if these people seriously have no hobbies of their own, or what.”

Their hobby is edgelording other people on the internet.

I see it often on Facebook. Someone will post a photo of their rooms in groups about decorating, and someone will have something negative to say, like “too much clutter” or “too much stuff for me” or something like that. I also see it in groups based on food or shopping. Someone will say “too much sugar” or something like that. That’s called “yucking on someone’s yum.” Why people can’t just scroll past? Because they’re bored and nasty and maybe they were abused as children or grew up in a loveless household, or something along those lines.

I’m in a group where people post their creations daily, or whenever they create some art, and I try to give most things a “heart” emoji because I figure if it encourages the person to make more, and they’re proud of their work, it deserves at the very least a love emoji.

^^ “too much clutter” or “too much stuff for me” or something like that.

But we do that all the time on Fluther. It doesn’t have to be taken negatively, it can also just be an opinion. People in general voice their opinions and often that opinion is different. If someone posts a pic of a triple chocolate ice cream dessert with all the trimmings, I might say “too much sugar for me” and not mean it as a criticism. In a case like that, it’s up to them whether to take it as negative or not. Some people might respond with “omg I love it!”

In the case that the OP describes, I agree that it’s critical and negative.

I do agree that if you are posting for advice about your room, criticism should be expected. Not if it is someone showing off for fun.

I have always been scared to show my room for advice, I am NOT minimalist and some people would go nuts over my set up.

This girl I think is posting for fun and to inspire others. But no fun allowed on the internet >:(

Just people being people, I guess.

@SergeantQueen I didn’t mean people looking for decorating advice, I meant people saying “Look at my 1850 farmhouse! We just completed restoration on the floors and the bathrooms” and then people will start with the comments on clutter, or whatever, and it wasn’t asked for.

Definitely, if someone is asking for advice, then anything goes and they should brace themselves for what’s ahead lol.

Sorry, I was kind of responding to both you and Smudges in the same post.

I didn’t know people were still allowed to say anything mean on tiktok. All i ever see are comments basically kissing ass and being overly supportive of the most ridiculous videos.

Personally, I love coloring books so I have no issue with her kind of videos. It’s the fake pet saving videos that truly piss me off because it’s so obvious that they just put their pet in dangerous or horrid situations to act like they just happened to find them that way and are rescuing the poor animal. If you see a dog drowning in the middle of the lake and your first instinct is to start filming yourself saving it, you are a very shitty person, you should go save the dog and if you feel the need to be praised you can tell people about it later.

I say it all the time, “hurt people, hurt people.”

Modern society, especially when factoring in the internet, is awash with mental illness and a lot of struggling people.

As far as opinions of people on the internet, I regard them with the same concern I get about stuff written on a restroom wall…

Can you save a screen print of it and post it here? I can’t access it and I’m curious.