How have you changed since you became an adult?

More responsible, mainly.

I’ve changed the most perhaps since my divorce 13 years ago. I can now take care of myself and trust in my opinions.

13 years! You go @janbb!

I have changed a lot. I am not letting men take advantage of me anymore and I am standing up for myself. I also am learning to be more independent because I relied on my mom for so much.

I am learning to be my own person now. Not letting other peoples view on me dictate my self worth and esteem.

@SergeantQueen Your maturity shows.

I tend to be cynical. Not with everyone or everything, but more than I was when I was younger.

I tend to be more introverted.

I also am not so restless, as far as wanting to go out. When I was younger, I wanted to go somewhere every day, and I did. Now, I’m very happy to have total stay home days.

When I was 41, I became a parent, so that is a constantly evolving role that there’s no handbook for. I’m fairly confident about most of my decisions but I do question myself sometimes, and wonder if I should be more strict or whatever.

I also have cut down on buying stuff.

You’re begging, for a text wall…

Too much, to list…

I would say that since my transplant, I feel like a different person. I have tried to make a habit of saying something positive, to each person I interact with. I’ve noticed, that there usually IS something positive. I’m trying hard, to undo my LEO mindset, and stop looking for potential threats or problems as soon as I meet someone.

I guess I have an intimidating appearance, so I go out of my way to be nice to people.
I’ve found that people often like my praise, and I believe it lightens their day/night.
This making others feel appreciated thing, seems to make me happy too.

A simple “I really like your glasses,” or “those are nice wheels” (shoes,) goes a long way…

Too much to even try to summarize it all.

^I know this audience, and even though we are few now, long responses are frowned upon…

I only gave the response I did, because the q was sent to me, and I wanted to at least not ignore RDG…

How about you @Zaku ?..
You’re a fascinating jelly, if you don’t mind me saying so.
I wager you would have something worth reading…

Thanks, but it’s so vague, and there are so many things I could say. As you wrote, “too much to list”.

For example, a few years after I joined Fluther around 2007, I took some intense courses which had us do long-time examinations of ourselves, our conversations, communications, perspectives, and creating year-by-year autobiographies tracing where we got all the ideas we noticed we were currently repeating, and on and on. It’s an endless topic, and often a personal one.

While I’m still the same person I always have been, I have changed quite a bit in terms of my self-awareness and how I can choose to be, and what I think about it, how I relate to it, and so on.

Ive always been a bit wild, loud and fearless growing up. Now at 51 I’m more cautious, responsible and focus on a life of purpose in service to others.

Another thing to add, now that I’m older, I’m doing more looking back than looking forward. I have a bunch of regrets, a bunch of great memories, good times, bad times, the vicissitudes of life.

^^^ yes. And what we look back on feels a little different than when we looked back on the same memories in our 40s and 50s. They seem sweeter or harder…just feels different.