Are people who use text speak really that annoying?

I use it as sparingly as I can so it isn’t too annoying. But I have clubbed thumbs. Short and stubby. Typing is so hard and I am constantly backspacing. It takes me forever to write out long responses. I prefer video/voice messages but lots of people hate that so I can’t win.

Some people say it’s a dealbreaker on dating apps because it is immature, but that seems like a dumb hill to die on and is rude to people who struggle like me.

I try to use proper grammer and contractions, but sometimes my fat thumb doesn’t hit the “e” for “you’re” and I might not notice it, or backspace my error then forget.

I am 24, talking to people my age. Everyone my age should know textspeak.