Do you find it rude to end an email with “Please advise.”?

It depends on the context. As a general rule, no, not rude.

No, I don’t. You’re asking a question presumably that requires an answer.

Now if they end the email, “Please advise, asshole” then I might take umbrage.

Ha!

It was interesting because this question was posed to a group of people. And it seemed to divide between genders.

Love that Fluther just dashed that small data point. :)

It’s a shorter version of “Let me know what you think,” so no, not rude at all.

I prefer “please do your job and respond.”

@smudges This is how the women in the group interpreted/meant it. And didn’t think it was rude.

@MakeItSo1701 This is how the men in the group interpreted/meant it. And thought it was rude.

I found that interesting. And was curious to see if those results would replicate on Fluther.

That is odd that it is a gendered thing (from your examples)

I find that over the top professional talk lame and pretentious so to me it is annoying rather than rude.

No.

Call the men who whined about the email “snowflakes”. See how they respond to that.

@MakeItSo1701 I thought it was odd as well.

@Caravanfan I don’t think it’s a snowflake thing. I think people just communicate differently. And it’s a good example of why the golden rule doesn’t always work.

@raum maybe I’m from a different culture but I don’t see anything offensive in in? Maybe it’s the context of it? Or is there some kind of etiquette that I miss?

See it all the time. All ways took it as please help me.

I use it in my technical work correspondence all the time. It’s better than what I really want to say (“get off your ass and respond” or “what are you going to do about it”).

I don’t find it rude but there are some people I wouldn’t expect to hear it from. Someone I’m more friendly with (a business associate or coworker that I am more friendly with), I wouldn’t expect it from. They would probably write something more casual, like “please let me know.”

I wrote to someone at school the other day to ask how many guests each student is allowed to bring to the graduation ceremony, and I closed with “thank you so much.”

It’s always A levels and interns I see using it. I get “how can I sound professional and ask for help from someone I don’t know on something I’m clueless about” vibes when I see it used.

@jca2 I was told years ago not to close a letter with a “thank you” because you’re making the assumption that they’re going to help you. I do close with “thank you” to customer service because it’s my expectation and their job to help me. But I would never write “Do your job”. That’s rude and they likely wouldn’t be motivated to truly help. I close with “Respectfully” to my doctors, landlord, and other professionals. I use “Sincerely” or “Warmly” with other people, depending on how close we are.

@smudges Some people write “regards” or “with warm regards.” One of my friends, when asking for help, writes “thank you for your anticipated assistance.” When I emailed the school personnel asking how many guests can come to graduation, I knew he would help me but even if he didn’t know an answer, just anticipating receiving his email was worthy of a “thank you so much.”

@Mimishu1995 I’d imagine culture would affect how someone reads it as well.

@Blackwater_Park That’s how I’d interpret it.

@Forever_Free I think the men in the group read it as a thinly-veiled “Get off your ass and respond.”

@jca2 and @smudges

I could see how a thank you could be read very differently. I also use it with very different intentions. Probably depends a lot on context.

@raum When I was at work and now (and then too) in my personal correspondence on email, I was always trying to be conscientious of the fact that the email could end up in someone else’s hands. Especially at work, since I was representing thousands of employees and it could always end up in court or with someone high up at the employer’s, I was always thinking of sounding polite and not really chummy, but just nice. That’s the way I usually speak to people, too, for example on the phone. “Thank you so much.” “Super!” Stuff like that. I would hate to have had my email sitting in a court file and being scrutinized by others and sounding rude. Unless I was really mad at someone, which was rare, I tried to always sound nice.

When my daughter was in elementary school, she had a teacher that could be a bitch. The teacher would rudely point out something that I did wrong, like filling out the wrong form or something like that. A few years later, friends told me their son had the same teacher and she was the same way to them, and they were considering going to the Principal about it (they didn’t), but I was kind of relieved that it wasn’t just me or a wrong impression. Anyway, I remember once, the teacher emailed me about something I did wrong and I responded “My sincerest apologies for this egregious error.” It was polite wording but to me, at least, (in my mind lol), it was dripping with sarcasm. When I told the friends who experienced the same thing, they thought it was hilarious.

No, not with more information.