Is it rude to never tell a partner about my mental disorders?

Its intentionally deceptive, especially if contemplating marriage. Dating not so much of an issue.

Its intentionally deceptive to not allow people to use disorders to define me? I am not my disorder nor am I abusive or manipulative like people assume those with this disorder are. I want people to know that first before I tell them. Actions speak louder than words and all that.

I am open about depression, anxiety, and PTSD. Not the other thing.

Also, not arguing. If it comes off that way I am not. I am not asking for others to tell me what to do, just looking to figure that out myself by getting opinions.

I am in the dating scene with a significant disorder. It is not easy.

My post was worded improperly, I didn’t mean to say I am never telling someone. Sorry about that. Re-reading that is not what I meant. I meant I won’t tell them before we are committed***

I dont see any reason to tell a partner while dating either. My personal experiences with mental illness is that you need support. And a partner can’t help if they aren’t aware. Best of luck!

I get that. I would hate to make the other person feel like my caretaker is the other issue. Sorry if I came off too confrontational. Thank you. I am touchy on this.

edit: Goodjob on 30k

Not at all, my mom was bi-polar and had situational depression undiagnosed until she was 55 years old.
While the stigma is still there, i feel like more people are educated now. :)

Oh thanks, I hadnt noticed ha!

I agree with what @KNOWITALL said. Also, if you are dating someone on a serious level and you have an episode, they may be confused, whereas if they know ahead of time, they will know that this type of thing may occur, what to do about it, and they may anticipate it occurring if they know.

I love with diagnoses. I learned in therapy not to disclose them in the very early stages of dating. My therapists taught me to ease into them after some time has passed. They also taught me to talk about them in a light manner.

Often we think we have to disclose very seriously, but this can lead to the wrong impression that our illnesses are horrific. It’s called trauma dumping.

Yes, you should disclose, but you don’t have to do it very early on.

^^ Perfect

Also, I would not wait until we’re committed. That’s unfair to them.

I like the idea of not being so serious. Its not a one size fits all diagnoses so it doesn’t always mean the absolute worst.

Thank you Hawaii Jake.

I guess I can admit that once I am serious with someone I should tell them… prior to a serious committment like marriage. It just won’t be on my dating profile lol. Needs to wait a few weeks.

Your medical issues are your own business. You are under no obligation to tell anybody anything you don’t want to tell them.