What is the protocol about dead step grandparents?

Asked by KatawaGrey (21483

) October 2nd, 2008

Once again, I must beg the indulgence of the fluther community. My boy’s step grandmother recently died. I’m not sure how to approach the situation (bear with me, people, I’ve never dated someone with such an odd familial situation, and, thank you). When I asked him if he knew her and liked her, he said yes and then changed the subject. He seems happy but then will freak out about the littlest thing. I think this may be a side effect of the grief, but it could also be that he is stressed because his stepdad is grieving and his normal schedule has been thrown into chaos. I’m seeing him tomorrow and Saturday and i just want to know what I can do to comfort him and/or help him relax.

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Just let him know you’re there if he wants to talk. Support him. That does wonders. He’ll open up when he feels he can.

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Last year my step father asked me to be a pallbearer at his mother’s funeral. I was honored to help. It was a very emotional affair, but I felt oddly disconnected from it.

I think I felt more grief for him and my step brother and sister’s loss than actual grief for losing a woman that I had always liked… but still wasn’t MY grandmother.

I didn’t really know how to feel, and I’m a grown man.

I think Dolly has the right idea.

Good luck to you.

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