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oopslc89's avatar

How come the nice guy never gets the girl?

Asked by oopslc89 (103points) October 6th, 2008

My girlfriend has apparently been cheating on me with my best friend. She then told me she never orgasmed with me (she faked) and she always does with him.

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Mtl_zack's avatar

who said you’re a nice guy? she obviously thinks you arent.

krose1223's avatar

I think this is one of those times you should forget about her. I don’t know you, and I’m assuming you consider yourself a nice guy, so don’t ever let a girl bring you down. The whole orgasm thing never should have even been mentioned by her, that just goes to show how immature she is. I’m sorry this happened to you, but I really think you should just put it in the past.

JackAdams's avatar

Let me respectfully suggest, for whatever it might be worth to you, that there is a very real possibility that your soon-to-be ex-GF is lying to you to deliberately hurt your feelings, for some reason.

I suspect that she did orgasm with you, but claimed she didn’t, so you would dump her so she could have the other guy.

That kind of scenario is quite common, unfortunately.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

See this question: http://www.fluther.com/disc/11271/why-do-nice-guys-finish-last/

and this question: http://www.fluther.com/disc/3570/nice-guys-finish-last/

and this question: http://www.fluther.com/disc/7234/are-women-really-interested-in-the-nice-sweet-guy-type/

and this question: http://www.fluther.com/disc/10937/why-do-you-see-beautiful-seemingly-sweet-women-with-overweight-rude/

Because I am so tired of setting the record straight to boys like you, who want to blame all of us because your girlfriend cheated on you.

I’ve got news for you. MY EX BOYFRIEND CHEATED ON ME!
what do you think about that?

Likeradar's avatar

Nice guys get the girl fairly often.

Sounds like there’s more problems than you maybe being nice.

oopslc89's avatar

chica i wish there was some way for me to take a star away from you.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

gosh, i am so bowled over by how freaking nice you are!!!

jrpowell's avatar

I’m a dick and I don’t get the girl either.

Maybe something else is going on.

El_Cadejo's avatar

I CALL SHENANIGANS ON THAT STATEMENT

Mtl_zack's avatar

how long have you been waiting to say “shenanigans” uber?

JackAdams's avatar

When you originally posed the question, you wrote, quote, “My girlfriend has apparently been cheating on me with my best friend.”

Trust me on this: That guy is NOT your BEST FRIEND!

If he was, he would never have taken such liberties with your woman.

He is not a “friend” at all.

oopslc89's avatar

I disagree he said he was sorry and we are friends again, though I see your point.

El_Cadejo's avatar

you have no idea zack ^_^

Nimis's avatar

Just because you didn’t get the girl, it doesn’t necessarily make you the nice guy?
Don’t mean to sound mean. But just logically you know?

Also, are you okay with your friend and not with your ex-girlfriend?
Is it because he apologized?

oopslc89's avatar

Yes i am ok with my Bf because he said he was sorry and he said he couldn’t help himself, which is understandable cus my gf is super hott. Plus he said he couldn’t even enjoy it cus he felt so bad both times.

Nimis's avatar

Your friend is excused because your ex-girlfriend was too hot(t) to resist?
Does your ex-girlfriend, in turn, get excused for being super hot(t)
and has to erm…fend people off?

El_Cadejo's avatar

BOTH TIMES!?!!? AHAHAHAH your really gullible if you believe that shit. i mean the one time while i dont agree with is excusable maybeeeeeee.(i still say no) but twice dude? come on.

krose1223's avatar

I’d say drop them both.

oopslc89's avatar

iight first off she isn’t my ex cus I love her and we are still together. secondly this is a serious thing that you are laughing at uber so i dont need you gay remarks. dont laugh at my life. plus my friend is loyal something you kno nothing about.

krose1223's avatar

can you flag a user?

El_Cadejo's avatar

ill say it once again TROLL

krose1223's avatar

I like how you used a different picture uber. :) I’m most definitely with you on that

El_Cadejo's avatar

gotta change it up :P

La_chica_gomela's avatar

uber you really think this person is a troll?
i took him so seriously…
his question provoked me to a question.
i admitted to the world (okay, the fluther community, same thing) that i cheated when i was 15.
how can someone who impacts the course of your life be a troll?
how?

Nimis's avatar

You were provoked by a troll.
That’s kind of what they (try to) do.

krose1223's avatar

@la_chica_gomela -I guess it’s another lesson learned. :-p I think we need to have a big group hug now.

krose1223's avatar

I’m kind of enjoying this off topic thread… before it gets taken off atleast.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

I think this is about the topic! I really do! the topic is oop’s problems. his problem is he’s a troll.

Why do trolls do this? Does it give them a thrill? Are they sitting there laughing at me right now?

Is it like that facebook group, “Marijuana is the root of all evil and I hate it” http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=42340161194&ref=nf&#/group.php?gid=2204698262
All the people in it are potheads (except me yall, really though),
and every now and again a liberal minded person who doesnt seem to know how to read takes it way to seriously and and starts telling them about how pot’s not that bad, and the potheads just say reaaaaaaaally ridiculous things to them like, “Because of Marijuana, America is losing most of the timeless values it was built upon. And our children are being turned into serial killers.” or “Marijuana causes communism. One time I got really high and made me and my friends smoothies, which is sharing. Sharing is really just a nice word for voluntary communism.” (that’s my favorite).
but the reason that group is different is because if those people would open their eyes before they open their mouth, they would realize that its a bunch of potheads and how was i supposed to know this loser’s girlfriend didn’t really cheat on him! what a jerk!

krose1223's avatar

here, here. Lurve for you. I will be checking out that facebook thing now. :)

La_chica_gomela's avatar

the best part about joining the group is that for weeks afterward, your friends are sending you messages that say, “what the hell is wrong with you?” and “are you stupid?”

you’re just like, check it out man! everytime you smoke pot a baby kitten gets cancer! you should stop! you’re a horrible person!

no i don’t really say that to them. i just say, ‘check out the group’

krose1223's avatar

“smoke killed my sister and raped my mom” HA. I love these guys already.

chicadelplaya's avatar

DUDE—First of all, LOOSE THAT LAME-ASS “GIRLFRIEND” AND YOUR SO-CALLED “BEST FRIEND”. Please, maybe you need to stop surrounding yourself with self-centered, untrustworthy, ridiculous people. If you truly are the nice guy you say you are, perhaps you might try standing up for yourself more and not put up with this crap you’re telling us about. Figure out who you really are and be true to it. There ARE, maybe not the norm, beautiful women out there who like nice guys and would take you seriously. SERIOUSLY.
Good luck!

La_chica_gomela's avatar

Aw, chica del playa! You fell for the troll just like me! I’m sorry! I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this person made the story up. It’s just not true. You weren’t the only one take in. I guess we chicas are too nice for our own good!

chicadelplaya's avatar

But hey, there ARE PLENTY of guys out there in this situation. God help them! ;-)

La_chica_gomela's avatar

of course there are.

punkrockworld's avatar

cause girls are too stupid too realize… they’ll be crawling back later but you’ll be taken by someone who does realize

La_chica_gomela's avatar

punkrock, as i told chicadelplaya, this question was posed by a troll. it never happened. he made it up. you might want to start reading the previous answers before you write yours.

chelseababyy's avatar

All I have to say is wow.

SeventhSense's avatar

Because “nice” guys like you attract predators like this bitch. It’s a combination of what you put out there and what you attract. If you start caring for yourself and showing genuine self esteem you’ll keep this type at bay and attract genuine women. I can see a woman like this from a mile away and have nothing to do with her. Likewise, I’m not hooking up with friends’ women who are “inexplicably” attracted to me, even though I could.

Horus515's avatar

I don’t know but my advice is stop being the nice guy. I’m not one to talk but I am really starting to learn what it means to just be an evil fucking asshole. I think thats what its going to take. Oh and buy yourself a baseball bat, I did.

SeventhSense's avatar

@Horus515
—He wants to emulate this guy, not this guy

La_chica_gomela's avatar

He’s a fucking troll, guys, for crissake! I’ve said it at least 3 times now! Let it go!

SeventhSense's avatar

@La_chica_gomela
What basis do you have for that statement?^^

La_chica_gomela's avatar

If you read through the previous comments, it will become obvious to you that this was a joke, just as it did to me and the other flutherites who were actually communicating with the asker.

SeventhSense's avatar

@La_chica_gomela
I did and I still can’t see where you concluded that other than one person starting that sentiment. Please point it out specifically. Thanks

fireside's avatar

I wouldn’t say he is a typical troll, just someone who posted a vague question which seems to contradict his later statements.
—————————
“iight first off she isn’t my ex cus I love her and we are still together.”
“plus my friend is loyal something you kno nothing about.”

If the dude still has his girl, then he is either not the nice guy, or he was just throwing a random question out. But he did ask a similar question the next day.

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