If people were gossiping about you, how would you want your friend(s) to respond? How would you respond?

I hate when people stick up for me I feel like im weak. I would stick up for myself, but im curios more curios then curios George i would listen to what they say even though its not the best way.

Carelessness.

i would hope my friends stuck up for me. not sure i’d want to know. there was a time when i called myself ‘non-confrontational’, but the older i get the bitchier i’ve become. It would depend on who was saying what.

Everyone wants ppl to like them, whether they freely admit it or not. It’s just the older you get; the less you care. One of the perks of getting older.

Here’s what Oscar Wilde said in “The Picture of Dorian Gray:”

“There is only one thing in the world worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about.”

I would like to be stuck up for, but it ultimately doesn’t matter.

What I really don’t like is when a friend or family member insists on telling me that someone was gossiping about me.

I don’t need to know and I feel like the person telling me has an agenda of their own. Nothing good can come from telling me.

Now if the gossiping person said it to me directly, I would certainly defend myself – but then it wouldn’t be gossip, would it.

As to whether I would want my friends to intervene or to tell me, it would depend on the seriousness of the gossip. If it was the usual minor gossip crap, then no. I would ignore it.

If it was accusing me of a crime or a serious ethical breach, then i would hope they would defend me and tell me.

I’d hope friends would defend me and tell me, if I had a false “positive” impression about the gossiper. Depending on the severity of the gossip, I might be inclined to defend myself, too.

I’d want my friends to remain neutral and then tell me everything later on.
If I was there I would stick up for myself until it starts to feel like a fight, then I’d drop it because I really don’t like fighting (and it’s just not classy).
If I wasn’t seen, hell yeah I’d listen. I can’t say I’d change my actions in any way, but I’d listen.