How do i ask her out?

First i need you to tell me how much you talk to her do you talk to her daily or hardly ever?

i talk to her almost everyday she is in about 1/2 of my classes

Ok then its going be alot easier all you have to do ask her to a movie or somthing and ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend it worked for me oh also give her signs that you like her.

the only thing that i would have to worry about is her twin sister. YOu can never get them apart from each other its like they are glued together. I cant take them both to a movie.

A written card asking her out works wonders, especially when the card is attached to:

1. 1+ pound box of chocolates, or,
2. A dozen red roses

the roses could work because it is her favortie flower

Wait wait wait. Stink, you’re 14 and you’re giving dating advice? Man, I must be getting old. (Although, you’re right. Asking her out is the only way to find out if she’s interested. I just really don’t think the “ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend” works after about age 15.)

Trust me you cant find more girlfriends and boyfriends anywhere on earth than at a high school Les.

OK, I’ll trust you Stink (although, you’re barely in high school). Again, I must be getting old.

If you already talk to her on a day to day basis, I would recommend slipping it into your everyday conversation. You don’t have to get down on one knee. Keep it casual. She’ll probably like that anyways…

@stink, I’m pretty sure that everything you find in highschool is purely superficial. nothing real happens in these years. Honestly. Your thoughts?

i think that will work i will try it this week but i wont see her until this thursday because we are on fall break now

A dozen roses MIGHT be misinterpreted as either “too much,” or as “coming on too strong.”

Let me modify my previous post by instead suggesting a single, long-stemmed red rose in a nice box, because it will give her something to unwrap/open, and it won’t overwhelm her.

The card could read, “I would enjoy givng you the other 11 roses at dinner this Saturday night, if you would care to accompany me to Won Hung Lo’s Chinese Garden & Laundry Shack.”
(Just a suggestion, of course.)

well her birthday is comin up on the 29th of Oct. and i was thinking about asking her out to lunch and i could give her the card and rose then

If her birthday is coming up, then INCLUDE a gift certificate for $25, to a store where you know she likes to shop.

If she declines to go out with you, then you really aren’t “out” all that much money, and you can, in good conscience, tell her to please accept the gifts, anyway.

It’s been my personal experience that women enjoy a man who inspires laughter, because such men are considered “safe” or “harmless,” and I would imagine that you would wish to be perceived as a gentleman, more than anything else. So, if you have a few humorous anecdotes about yourself to relate to her (which might get her to giggle), you might wish to recall them in advance of your first date. (Just an idea to consider.)

True Story: I don’t know why I did this, but one time, in high school, I somehow got up enough courage to ask the prettiest cheerleader in the entire school to go out with me, and I was astounded when she said that she would, because I was expecting her to say something like, “My ‘dance card’ is filled, for the next seven weeks, solid.”

So, I told her that I was surprised that she hadn’t been asked by some other guy.

She told me that she never gets asked for dates, because, “All of you guys assume I have already been asked, so no one asks.”

I decided NOT to repeat her comment to the other guys…

see that is the very reason i havent asked her out yet was because she is like your cheerleader. She is the girl that everyone thinks she has already been asked out.

All the more reason to ask, and possibly via the method(s) I suggested.

You see ANY dude with a pulse can ask a woman out, but it has been my experience that the guy who “gets” the lady to accept his invitation, is the one who asks her in a most unusual or “different” fashion, that kind of calls attention to him as being, perhaps, “special” in some way, or “beyond the pale.”

Look, I’ve just realized that I am giving away too many male strategies here, and that the Fluther ladies are also reading my remarks and learning things that men have kept secret from women, for millenia.

Let me suggest that we continue this discussion via PM, so the girls don’t find out everything about us.

PM?

Private Messaging.

Click on my Avatar or name, and when you see another composing space on my profile page, you can send me a message that only I will see.

You could plan a “study date.”

talk to her often and let her get the chance to know you then go on double dates then move it on up to just the two of you going to the movies or out to eat a few times then ask her if she would like to go out with you.

Do soemthing that will make you stand out from every other boy who ever asked her out ? You want to leave a impression so when she thinks to call you she knows why. It’s because you were different and caught her eye.