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The wives of politicians?

Asked by jvgr (1940points) October 14th, 2008

So on the news today we learn that Tim Mahoney Elected to Remove ‘Ethical Cloud’ of His Disgraced Predecessor, Mark Foley was found out to have had a mistress while he was campaigning on honesty and morals. I didn’t see his wife, but from his actions, she was nearby when he stated he broke no laws.

Q: Other than Spitzer, wives of these scoundrels “stand by their man” (literally) while they are denying any legal wrongdoing (though its clear the extra-curricular sex happened). The wives clearly look stressed, distraght and are no doubt totally embarassed. Why do they agree to stand there to show support for this person?

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augustlan's avatar

I can think of three reasons that make some sense. 1) For the sake of their children. 2) She believes that despite the affair, he is still the best person for the job he holds. Both of those can be thought of as kind of a “greater good” thing. Or 3) She honestly loves and has forgiven him. (You would not see me doing that last one, but some people can and do.)

lefteh's avatar

I dare you to say “no” to the staff of a United States Congressperson or governor.

marinelife's avatar

BTW, welcome to Florida, my world. A strange place, isn’t it?

I think augustlan’s ideas as usual all make great sense.

I think a couple of other factors may come into play. 1. The wife is in shock and has not yet sorted through her emotions. As a trained political wife, which she is by the time it gets to that national level, trotting out there and looking stoic is almost automatic. She is told by staff what to convey while campaigning, etc. and 2. A misplaced sense of loyalty that she has not yet lost (or he tells her that it is in her interest [financial, social standing, etc.] to do it).

srmorgan's avatar

Marina has a good idea, but let’s take it further.

The “spouse” (there are a lot of female politicians these days) is going to keep a stiff upper lip and bear the burden through the scandal and who knows, maybe a trial.

What are the statistics concerning how many of these marriages hold together for two years after the scandal breaks, or five years?

I can’t speculate on a percentage but it is certainly less than 100%.

SRM

augustlan's avatar

I’m guessing way less than 100%. I think that most of the reasons listed are just for immediate purposes…after that, it’s anyone’s guess.

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