Can anyone help me with this question ?

Sounds like he has a bit of a problem. We tend to shower in this culture, and not doing it is a sign of something. It could be the loss of his girlfriend, and he is grieving. Some kind of depression is also possible. Any chance of him talking to a professional? (from the way your wrote the question, I am guessing no).

So your choice is to stay with him and support him through this time—as long as you can, or pick up and leave if he is not willing to make some changes and help himself.

The fact that you have nowhere else to live seems kind of weak in the light of what is going on.

Could be, but he could also be depressed (which may or may not be related to the death of his ex). Depressed persons tend to not care about their physical appearance. How is he other than the showering?

I don’t understand. Are you saying that they had already broken up when she died? Or were they together?

Either way it sounds like your relationship has a lot more serious problems than a lingering smell…

@La_chica_gomela: They must have already broken up when she died. If she only died this past January, I doubt someone who is so distraught could manage to fall into a non-showering depression, start a new relationship, and get engaged, all at the same time.

GoS, no, actually, Penny and I have been PMing about it, and she confirmed that the woman died before Penny entered the picture. But she did die in January, and he managed to continue showering until June, apparently.

He is heaving mental health issues. You need to insist that he seek counseling.

Yeah, something is seriously wrong here.

Wait, so the guys ex-girlfriend died earlier this year and now you are engaged to him? Was she already an ex or did she become one when she died? If she became one when she died and now 10 months later you are engaged to this person I think the issue is bigger than him not showering. Maybe he wants you to leave because he realized that he rushed into a relationship and got engaged within 10 months and is so childish that he thinks he can drive you away with not bathing. I’m not trying to be mean but give you an honest answer. I would be looking for a new place to live. Is World of Warcraft involved or everquest?

Do you want to be the rebound girlfriend? I think you might want to seek counseling, yourself. What’s the draw for you to stay in this situation? You know the having nowhere else to live thing only really works as long as you let it.