Facebook friend request?

I don’t invite people to my list willy nilly. I keep a short list.

My answer to people who wonder why I declined – I tell them I’m not exceptionally active on Facebook, and that I keep my network small and limited to a number of close friends and family.

In all honesty, I would just ignore it; then either use excuse…

A) Claim that Facebook isn’t letting the request through; play off most people’s ignorance to technology

B)Tell them that you use facebook for people who are really really good friends. Add a “no hard feelings”, and you should be good.

^^A is the best solution, always works.

Why don’t you want to add this person? Do you have a moral objection to his/her behavior, or do you just not like hanging out with him/her?

I just had the same problem, a gossipy coworker told me she friended me on facebook. While I don’t really have anything to hide I think she’d eventually abuse it no matter what I put there based on what she has done in the past.

“Oh, cool. That was sweet of you but honestly I haven’t touched that thing in months and I don’t think it’s gonna change. I log in occasionally to keep in touch with faraway friends but that’s about it.”

We’ve been cool since. :)

@nikipedia- Hi! I went to high school with him and he was a total punk. Hasn’t changed much since then. He just bugs me, but we have mutual friends.

well, what about the truth…if one of my coworkers asked to be my friend on facebook I would tell them the same thing when they use to ask about going to my house, you are just a work friend and I want to keep it that way.

Just brush off the comments, as though you don’t really care about Facebook. Sort of like asmonet’s approach to her co-worker.

Cool. Thanks so much for all your input!!

Good luck avoiding them! :)

I’ve added people and then limited what they could see.

Hmmmmm. That’s an idea I didn’t think of. I’m really new to it. Thanks!

You could have just told me to my face, but instead I had to read it here. :(
Why, chica? Why???

LOL! Sometimes I wonder if it’s possible anyone I know hangs out with Fluther and would recognize any of my stories. That would suck. Especially since most everything I post is private, ya know.

@Alfreda, How do you do that – limit what a certain friend can see?

To answer your question… First off, I’d ignore the friend request and let it go at that. If they then asked me about it later, I’d… I’m not sure what I’d do, frankly. I use Facebook every day, so I couldn’t really say that I’m not on it much.

I only add people I actually know in real life, so when occasionally friends of friends add me, I ignore the request. They’ve never brought it up with me, not once. That’s my experience with it.

@trustinglife Go to Settings>Privacy Settings>Profile. You can then enter a name, and limit what they see. My daughter told me about this; she friended me, but didn’t want me to see her wall.

I love the limit feature. <3

AlfredaPrufrock: You must have a pretty chill daughter. I love my mom, but I’d never Facebook friend her. There’s too much on there I don’t need her to know about, limited profile or not.

Aw, we have the “what happens in Vegas” rule. I have at least 15 friends on FB that are my daughters’ friends; they friended me. It would be too weird the other way around.

if we have not met face to face then no facebook request