If you ask someone to join your Fluther and they don't recipocate should you remove them or ignore it?

You add people to your Fluther because you want to follow their questions. It shouldn’t matter if they want to follow yours or not.

Feisty
I’m not sure how that works. Maybe the person you asked doesn’t either.

coming from av where friends are friends I guess it would seem like a slap in the face if someone who is a friend there didn’t respond here, but maybe I am looking at this the wrong way. I have to learn to do things differently I guess.

Well, you’re in 40 other fluthers and you’ve only got 182 Lurve, so I wouldn’t worry too much. Like MacBean said, the only benefit of having someone in your fluther is that their questions will appear on your “Your Fluther” tab in the questions window.

“Your Fluther” is not a translation of “friends” ;-)

I find the whole “friends” concept on most social networking flawed, anyway. I don’t see what the added value of having more people on such a list is.

I think that what y’all are saying is that just because you are ignored doesn’t mean the other person doesn’t like you or is mad at you. I will get the hang of this pretty soon.

Yeah, I wouldn’t even call it ‘ignored’ personally. You gotta leave the facebook/myspace mentality at the door here. Because this is more of a discussion community with a social aspect than a ‘social networking’ website. I see being added to someone’s fluther as a compliment and just take it as someone taking an interest in what I have to say. I like it better that way anyway.

I can see your point and I am beginning to wrap my mind around it.

Personally, whenever I get added to someone’s Fluther I assume it’s because of a friendlist-like usage :P

I don’t add other people because I’m not interested in all questions that interest other people.

Honestly, I rarely actually notice when I get added to someone’s fluther. So they might not have noticed. Either way, I don’t think anyone here is trying to be insulting by ignoring your fluther-inclusiveness.

I think I am beginning to understand, thanks y’all.

i never keep track of who add’s me. i add the ppl i like and agree with and never think more about it.