Should I tell my best friend of 13 years that i am in love with her?

Walk down the romance section of you local Blockbuster. Rent a bunch of movies. About 80% of those will give you your answer.

Tell her!!! just imagine the disaster her marriage could become if u neglect your feelings. It’s possible you will never truly love anyone else, and constantly be asking yourself, “What if?” Don’t emotionally torture yourself this way. Who’s to say she doesn’t possess similar feelings for you, but has been too timid to verbalize them and simply settled for this jerk you’re talking about? Please, please tell her.

You owe it to yourself to be honest with her. Life is a gamble.
If you do’t go after her now; you’ll regret it forever.

Take her out to dinner and tell you you want to talk. Let your feelings flow.

Good luck.

The evidence.

Of course, you’re not planning on kissing her (yet), but the principle is the same.

She’s engaged at 16?

You should tell her, but be aware that it may cause a rift.
Good luck!

Also, yeah, engagement at 16? Never mind that this guy is a dick, tell her she’s too young to be making a life commitment.

Unless she’s one of those people who doesn’t think of marriage as a life commitment. Which is OK in my book.

Spill it, but be prepared for the relationship to never be the same, or even end if she doesn’t feel the same way. DO NOT TELL HER THAT HER FIANCE IS A JERK. This will not help your cause.

I had a friend just like that. We had been good friends for the longest time, and she was (practically) married to her boyfriend of 4 years (they were talking about marriage and stuff). When I was 18 and she was 17, I decided to tell here that I loved her, despite the fact that she was already in a very serious relationship. She ended up taking it with no surprise, probably because she knew I was in love with her.

Anyway, long story short, I felt better letting her know how I felt. It’s always best to get those feeling off your chest, no matter how hard it may be to do.

P.S. She eventually broke up with him after a long time, so don’t give up hope.

I don’t think you should tell her. She is engaged (at 16 – yes a bad idea but irrelevant in this situation). She made the decision to go with another man. You should respect that.

If you want to do the right thing, do what you think is best for HER, and NOT what is best for YOU. You telling her that you love her would be the best thing for you, not her. You telling her is going to send her on a whirlwind of conflicting emotions that will only result in bad things for her.

As her friend, you should be supportive of what SHE wants, without being pushy. If she loves this dude, be supportive and give advice on how to better the situation instead of being destructive.

Wait What!! omg T

And who is Alee? Is this a movie? Candid camera? Could she be the friend? Oh the drama of it all!

This is a setup right? o_O

We’ve been bamboozled!

I mean, I thought it was weird that the topic for this question was “life” but that was acceptable until…

O_o

lame, blatant abuse of the system at our expense!

maybe there should be a rule where you have to have like 20 lurves before you can post a question? that will discourage the spam / tricks

Aw, I think it’s fun! Someone’s trying to tell a story! We should encourage creative storytelling.

Storytelling is fine, as long as its just that.

I don’t think I would of spent the time in crafting a meaningful, well thought out response to each party had I known it was a trick.

Now, where’s my treat?!

I’m definitely enjoying it—if it’s real, it is simultaneously fortunate, unfortunate, and hilarious that they found out like this, if it isn’t real (which is honestly more likely) it is a great joke to play on us and I’m enjoying it. Can’t wait for the next “installment”.

I just hope the fiancee doesn’t show up. There would be trouble then!

Geez T, at least create a new user name and be sly about it. That was way too obvious. Perhaps it’s time you two had a chat. Work it out. Good luck. BTW- In my opinion, no one should be getting married when they are a teenager. Bad move.

You two should use yahoo messenger to flirt. This isn’t the place for this kind of child’s game.

Do it.

Dude you should make a movie of this, seriously. This is what i would do. Tell her see how she takes it and if she took it well I and i said I would talk about her her husband or soon to be husband. One more thing you should tell kids about this story i know i will not like 5 year olsd but 14 up to show you must tell a girl how you feel before its to late another words you snooze you lose! (no offence)

lol

Tell her-she’s way too young to be engaged anyway—I mean honestly…... by at least 10 years.

What do her parents say? I know younger folks don’t enjoy hearing this, but you really don’t know what it’s all about at your age. You will be a very different person at 23, 25, 28, 30….. even if you think you are in love with her now, you may not in a few years—but at least maybe you can help her get out of this awful engagement. I think it’s fair to let her know, in kind terms, that her current man does not treat her very well, and that even if she doesn’t end up with you, she deserves better.

I would approach the situation trying to talk her out of the engagement. I would approach it as “I love you (let her decide on her own how you mean that) and you may not realize it but you deserve and can do much better than him. He does…..... wrong and you deserve ____________. You are too young and will mature a lot and all feelings aside I want you to be as happy as you can be”. That way she knows that you aren’t talking her out of it solely for your own benefit.