Should i dump him?

You should have a straightforward, honest conversation with him regarding how you feel about the relationship, and come to a conclusion based on how that conversation goes.

Get out now while it’s easy. It doesn’t matter if the wedding is tomorrow.

if you have to ask us, I think you may already know the answer.

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Say wha?

Hrmmm…you don’t know a Tyler by any chance, do you?

Nothing is that one sided. You should have a grown-up conversation about what is bugging him. I am sure he feels insecure due to your best-friendly relationship with the guy. I am sure there are a ton of little things you can do to make him feel more secure (this will be different for every guy) and it might make things okay.

I would suggest a few counseling sessions to help you communicate better. It seems like he has a bunch of strife for something or another. It may be super easy to solve, it may not – but why give up without knowing?

After a few sessions with a professional 3rd party you will be much more confident in your decision of either leaving or staying to work on it. Its way worth it. Your mind can be incredibly bias toward a situation. A unbiased, independent, professional 3rd party can spot them from a mile away.

@figbash: Indeed she does! Just check her fluther page. Oh the drama! It’s kind of fun to watch play out.

But the thing about not being allowed to hang out with a guy is troubling. That’s definitely more than strife. That says a lot about his trust for her and what length of leash he intends to keep her on once they’re married.

If he is already showing signs of being controlling, you’d better proceed with exetreme caution. That is if you proceed at all. Those are some early signs of an abusive person.

oh the drama I can’t take it anymore what is happening behind the scenes!?!

So, I guess I’ll go all in and say: Yes! Date Tyler instead! He seems to really care about you.

Now that I’m done treating you life like daytime TV (and that’s about the level of seriousness that you should apply to my comment, since I don’t know either of you), make sure you tell us after he picks you up, how the talk went!

Cannot help but continue being suspicious since Tyler and Alee continue to PM each other and purposely disable the “Mark this Private” checkbox (see their respective profile pages).

Oh, and @Tyler, who’s the hottie in your avatar?

Lemme get this straight. YOU ARE NOT MARRIED. My advice is to turn the other direction and get yourself some peace of mind. One thing you don’t need is to walk on egg shells in your own house. I have done it and I will NEVER do it again.

I’d like to hear more about the best Friend, is he cute?

It won’t get any better. Leave.

Sounds like he is pushing you away because he’s scared, or he’s a jack ass, or both. Don’t get married to a jack ass.

Sounds like he is turning into a control freak.

When a relationship starts the guy is always on his best behavior but when he gets comfortable his true personality comes out. I think you should get out of dodge. This controlling behavior may even escalate to the level of mental or physical abuse.

None of this “How much of a jerk is this guy? Is it worth it?” really matters, because assuming your story is consistent with Tyler’s then you are SIXTEEN YEARS OLD. Don’t get married. Wait at least several more years. What’s the hurry? Don’t squander your youth.

have an honest conversation with him. If it doesn’t change, get the fuck out. He’s showing signs of abusive behavior, controlling who you see is usually where it starts, it’s an attempt at isolation.

Picking fights over insignificant events is no way to live, and it’s not your obligation to put up with it, like Judi said GTFO, even if you’re supposed to get hitched tomorrow.

GET OUT, GET OUT, GET OUT!!! And BE CAREFUL!

@robmandu my pm box has been pretty busy too!

@robmanu: Nice catch, I wouldn’t have noticed that.

@asmonet it’s just a couple of little kids playing games. Don’t worry, the mods are on to them.

DUN DUN DUN

ha ha!!

run off with tyler. best friends make the best husbands. but wait a few years…

Just create an entirely new profile of the perfect man.

@Nimis I love how you think!!

@Nimis

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

I want to be the founder of the Nimis Fan Club.

@poof: Back off he’s mine.

@asmonet – Nimis = XX (as opposed to XY)...in case you didn’t know :)

You know, Nimis’ gender did not once cross my mind. I just saw words and a jellyfish and took it at face value. I actually think that’s pretty cool. I think that’s the first time I’ve even assigned gender in reference to her.

Odd. Either way I’m equal opportunity with a beer in hand—still works.

I mean all of that in the best way.

P.S. How do you know, eh?

sounds like you’ve made up your mind already. it may hurt now, but it is best to end the relationship than to stay in it when things will more than likely never get better.

is this real or fake? I must know!

Fake.
But delightfully entertaining at first glance :D

Trumi! I missed you! :)

Can jellyfish blush?

well I’m blushin’ now! hi poof!

@Nimis: Yes.

So cute. I didn’t have my audio on.
But I imagined it going bloop bloop

Funnily enough, it’s mostly kids shrieking and giggling and a wierd bloop background noise. You win!

i hate everyone now I wanted it to be reaaal