It’s women who are the problem. Most of the ones who divorce do not marry abusers, alcoholics, neglectful types, poor providers and so on. Marriage is cooking, cleaning, teamwork, mortgages, raising children and daily reality. It has nothing to do with pie-in-the-sky fantasies about so-called “Prince Charming and Cinderella”. You leave the fairytales and Barbie dolls behind in seventh grade and move on.
Some women feel it is an injustice to have to work full-time or part-time but a single mother will work more than that and raise kids on her own. They may marry for financial security and discover they have to work, even though it is any job they want, the hours they want and less than a single woman or single mother, having that windfall of a second income. They get a nice house and discover they have to clean it, do the garden and cook, like everyone else. It doesn’t matter that everyone does this and that men help out these days, it is still an injustice.
It is wrong that they ever had to have kids when they chose to, tubal ligation, adoption, abortion and birth control being available. They think it was forced on them, the ultimate sacrifice, when they don’t have to do it. And they don’t have to do it more than once. It only proves fertility, not mothering. Some women feel they are the ultimate parents because they gave birth, ignoring all that comes after. They may push the father away even if he wants to help, then demand that he help or claim he is neglectful, passive-aggressive style. They do everything when not asked or expected to and get mad at people for not appreciating it when they offer to do it or say it’s okay not to do it and than fall into that spell of melodramatic exaggeration claiming it was forced on them (by who?)
And they want money for clothes and romance all the time and Prince Charming but get what they married. After so many years of ‘neglect’ and ‘injustice’ and ‘being the one who is the martyr/princess/Florence Nightinggale’ they stil think they are the hot mamas on the block and ditch the guy out of ‘boredom’ (possibly using drugs, racking up bills, having affairs and so forth) but claiming in court he is the trouble, the one to blame, they are innocent and demanding what he earned (not just child support but the house, alimony and full custody of the children) and then spend the child support on themselves, can’t handle the mortgage, waste the alimony, complain the guy doesn’t see his kids when they make it difficult for him while taking his money and then expect some schmuck to take care of them and feel they are a blessing when they are in it for themselves, but divas and princesses always think that are the bomb at everyone else’s expense as they must be center of attention in all affairs. They marry out of self-interest. They cannot handle adulthood, responsibility and reality.
Men did not create this, women did. And there are men on the dating scene who refuse to marry, date, sleep with and support these women and they freak, as if he doesn’t have a right to say no. I figure it is my right as a woman to refuse a man who has kids (they aren’t my obligation) even if I want them eventually (my own, one or two, not somebody else’s) but they slam men for making the same choice but they would screw him too for child support and alimony (and not for the kids, which is what child support is for) and he isn’t even the father. According to the courts, if a woman fucks a guy, she deserves to be paid for it. It is a service provided in exchange for cash, along with marriage and relationships. Sounds more like the sex trade to me. I prefer to make my own money and not rely on a man and I can work. I would only expect child support from the father of my kids, and for the kids, not myself.
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